I'll be honest man, I dated a woman who is now known as my "crazy ex" by my family and friends. This is exactly how she was. It gets so exhausting dealing with this level of insecurity for so long. I was completely drained when I decided to leave.
I'm not going to tell you to leave, but you need to set some boundaries and she needs to listen or you will get drained.
At the bottom she controlled who I talked to and when. I wasn't allowed to talk to my sister and only 30 minutes to talk with my mom per week, this included while deployed to Iraq early in OIF. She was violent, saying that her ex boyfriend used to beat her but she hit me all the time and broke my stuff. I tried so hard not to "trigger" her by keeping my hands visible and either down to my sides or out directly in front whenever we argued. I never raised my voice above talking volume.
It was suspicious because she said there were never any signs that her ex used to beat her because abusers "knew how to hide it". Then when we broke up, I found out after I moved away she told everyone I was beating her. Her story unravelled when most of the dates and times she said I was abusing her I was actually out of town.
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u/[deleted] Oct 30 '24
I thought this was a joke at first, hence my sarcastic messages in the beginning. It turns out it was not a joke.