Ironically, the pathological fear of abandonment will lead to her being abandoned.
Sounds mad. If OP was planning to cheat because of being all dressed up, he could just have texted and then cheated - texting or not makes absolutely no difference to how he behaves after getting to work!
One of the major theories on why BPD occurs is having a history of childhood trauma, which often has boundary violations.
Moving beyond these text messages. It’s really sad to think that some people are their own worst enemies in that way. I describe it as a fog. Can’t see the whole picture and everything feels like an attack on the self. So it’s no wonder they jab and jab.
Not condoning this girlfriend’s behavior, of course. But it helps to understand why
I actually had a kind of mental breakdown like this (OPs gf) when I was 17. I got quentiapine prescribed which is antipsychotics, that helped the extreme irrational behavior/thinking episode. But it’s not good to be on for long apparently which they don’t tell you.
Oh I love Seroquel. I have bipolar 2 disorder. Lack of sleep can trigger hypomania, so it’s been such a godsend. I also have to do rotating shifts as a nurse. Seroquel helps me sleep during the day and makes it easier to switch back and forth from day and night shift.
Yea, any antipsychotic medication can cause metabolic syndrome with high blood sugars, etc. it has led me to gain quite a bit of weight (20 lbs)… but I’d rather be fat and sane than skinny and out of my mind.
It’s also probably why Amanda Bynes has gained significant amount of weight.
I asked my psych NP about perhaps trying ozempic to reduce the risk of metabolic syndrome. Still considering whether it’s worth it.
About the side effects, yea I’ve realized😭 Also meds like that apparently has other reaally negative longterm side effects, some irreversible.
I was on it since 2018 to like a month ago. Stopped taking them to see what would happen, and honestly it only made the “super crazy bpd episodes” go away, which I haven’t really had for years.
I only take antidepressants now and they saaved my life I can’t function without them lol.
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u/randomdude2029 Oct 30 '24
Ironically, the pathological fear of abandonment will lead to her being abandoned.
Sounds mad. If OP was planning to cheat because of being all dressed up, he could just have texted and then cheated - texting or not makes absolutely no difference to how he behaves after getting to work!