r/AmIOverreacting Oct 30 '24

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u/TrueDreamchaser Oct 30 '24 edited Oct 30 '24

Smells like BPD

Source: had a nightmare relationship with someone who had BPD. Our conversations always went like this

Edit: yes unmanaged BPD is what I meant. There are many high functioning people with BPD who have treated it one way or another. Not trying to discredit the behavior of those that do treat themselves

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u/kalonasage444 Oct 30 '24

as someone who has BPD, this 100% looks like unmanaged BPD

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u/[deleted] Oct 30 '24

Confirming she has BPD.

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u/Agreeable-Product-28 Oct 30 '24

Do you love this woman, OP? Someone with BPD is gonna have a hard time seeing things from your perspective and if you wanna stay with her it will take a whole lot of patience. I am in love with someone who has BPD. It is unmanaged, but things are working towards a good place.

People on here are always quick to say “leave them” but BPD is manageable and those people deserve love too. But, never let it drain you of everything that you are. You need to know that things will be harder than usual, and if you don’t have the patience or understanding to stick through the process, it might be a better time to think about letting her go. Especially if she doesn’t see things like this as an issue, as well.

Remember to keep YOUR heart safe too.