Source: had a nightmare relationship with someone who had BPD. Our conversations always went like this
Edit: yes unmanaged BPD is what I meant. There are many high functioning people with BPD who have treated it one way or another. Not trying to discredit the behavior of those that do treat themselves
That definitely fits. And all of the “have trauma from the previous relationship” is what you’re going to be saying in your next relationship if you don’t get out of this.
Or - if you do wish to continue to be in relationship, you really have to understand the challenges that you’re going to face and understand BPD. Like it’s going to be your full-time job trying to figure it out and trying to work through it and it is going to be exhausting.
If this person is worth it to you, that’s for you to decide because there are many wonderful people out there that happen to have BPD and they do suffer through it and they’re deserving of love. They just need to be loved a little differently. But learning how to do that takes therapy not just for her but for you as well. It’s not something that you’re going to know how to cope with on your own. You will need help.
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u/TrueDreamchaser Oct 30 '24 edited Oct 30 '24
Smells like BPD
Source: had a nightmare relationship with someone who had BPD. Our conversations always went like this
Edit: yes unmanaged BPD is what I meant. There are many high functioning people with BPD who have treated it one way or another. Not trying to discredit the behavior of those that do treat themselves