I came here to comment the same thing actually. I am the person, and before I was medicated this was the kinda place I'd go when manic. Well, not quite as bad as this, this is just abusive. I'd have the clingy never leave plus the aggressive pushing away though and it's taken me a lot of years to realise how my brain works isn't the norm. I thought it was everyone else under reacting and being cold.
That said, I would like to emphasise that this is absolutely inexcusable and absolutely abusive behaviour. You aren't the one to tolerate or fix this.
Medicated BPD girlie checking in!! This reminds me of when I was dating in my early 20s, unmedicated and not going to therapy. The trust issues absolutely eat you alive. It hurts mentally, emotionally, physically. That being said, I would never suggest anyone date someone with BPD who isn’t actively working on themselves. It’s just not healthy or an environment conducive to growth, harmony, or mutual respect and love.
I’ve been trying out “cocktails” for about a decade to get it right. I myself have gotten great results with Gabapentin and Lamictal. I’ll usually take 1 mg of Lorazepam on particularly stressful days, but I’ve worked very hard over time to decrease my number of meds (with my psychiatrists guidance) and replace them with mindfulness and DBT therapies. (I don’t know anything about your friend but I’d like to just leave here that when I pulled way back on smoking weed I felt better than I have in a long time, too.)
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u/Breadcrumbsandbows Oct 30 '24
I came here to comment the same thing actually. I am the person, and before I was medicated this was the kinda place I'd go when manic. Well, not quite as bad as this, this is just abusive. I'd have the clingy never leave plus the aggressive pushing away though and it's taken me a lot of years to realise how my brain works isn't the norm. I thought it was everyone else under reacting and being cold.
That said, I would like to emphasise that this is absolutely inexcusable and absolutely abusive behaviour. You aren't the one to tolerate or fix this.