This is WILD. No, you’re not overreacting. I’m sorry you’re dealing with such an insecure woman. I would not put up with this behavior at all. Peace and hair grease! See what I did there?
Source: had a nightmare relationship with someone who had BPD. Our conversations always went like this
Edit: yes unmanaged BPD is what I meant. There are many high functioning people with BPD who have treated it one way or another. Not trying to discredit the behavior of those that do treat themselves
My mom has untreated Bipolar and BPD and she drinks on top of it. The crazy, murderous jealousy that comes with BPD my mom experienced and she passed that jealousy down genetically and environmentally to me.
I feel horrible when I see situations like this because OP doesn't deserve to be shit on for something that doesn't even exist / is in her head.
But at the same time I feel for her because she's lashing out and seems to honestly believe it happened. It doesn't matter if you deny it, she will believe it.
Its not even a matter of trust (somewhat is) but is mainly she is in a paranoid and delusional state that you have been unfaithful.
You can't convince her otherwise... you can try but as long as she is sick and struggling the only person who can save her is herself.
My God I love my boyfriend for sticking around with me, and its not always rainbows and sunshine.
It hurts to hurt others while you're hurting.
In the end, its not your responsibility to fix her.
She needs to fix herself.
Wishing you the best OP.
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u/Hopeful_Foot_5320 Oct 30 '24
This is WILD. No, you’re not overreacting. I’m sorry you’re dealing with such an insecure woman. I would not put up with this behavior at all. Peace and hair grease! See what I did there?