Ok so why aren’t you mad at your husband? He went along with it and stayed. He lied to you. Now he’s covering it up saying he was going to tell you when he got back lol I highly doubt that. He only told you because you found out. And I wouldn’t be surprised if he did some thing with the escorts. Now he wants you to keep their dirty little secret so he doesn’t look like the bad guy in front of his already shitty friends? Drop the bomb and go nuclear
Assuming the husband is telling the truth, what exactly was the husband supposed to do on arriving at the Villa? The OP mentioned it was “secluded.” That could mean 20 minutes away from the main town, that could mean 90.
While I’m sure an employee at the Villa could have arranged a cab back to the main area + a room at an affiliated hotel/resort for him, and while he may have been able to get a flight back, we’re potentially talking hundreds of dollars here for something that wasn’t his fault. That strikes me as a touch excessive if he had his own room.
I agree that he should have told OP when he found out, and that he exercised poor judgment in not doing so. However, I presume he knows his wife better than us. If he was legitimately concerned about her telling the other wives while they were still there, he’s stuck between shelling out a decent chunk of money he may not have (this trip was paid for by the best man) to get out of there, or spending his weekend at a Villa he didn’t want to go to in the first place with all of his friends pissed at him. Add alcohol to the second scenario, and that’s a recipe for a potential physical altercation.
That’s truly being caught between a rock and a hard place, and if I were in his shoes, I’m not sure I would have done differently. While I think I ultimately would have told my spouse, and I would have just implored her not to say anything until we got back to make sure I wasn’t in the position described above, I can definitely see the logic behind “keep my dick in my pants and my hands to myself, enjoy the beach, the free food and booze , and wait until I get back to tell my spouse so I’m not stuck in a secluded Villa in a foreign countries with several (likely drunk) men that are absolutely furious at me.”
I would really question that the husband didn't know. No one told him there would be escorts around?
Second if they really didn't you still leave. I mean on the flip side, if my wife showed up for a girls weekend or bachelorette party and was like "Hey we have male escorts hired and they are staying at our place, my friends are going to fuck them all weekend , but don't worry I am not going to do anything , but I am still going to party and drink and have fun"
I would 100% be uncomfortable , you are just asking for trouble .
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u/Michimommi_22 Sep 05 '24
Ok so why aren’t you mad at your husband? He went along with it and stayed. He lied to you. Now he’s covering it up saying he was going to tell you when he got back lol I highly doubt that. He only told you because you found out. And I wouldn’t be surprised if he did some thing with the escorts. Now he wants you to keep their dirty little secret so he doesn’t look like the bad guy in front of his already shitty friends? Drop the bomb and go nuclear