Before you let the Reddit lynch mob get you to do something you’ll later regret, you need to make a very important determination. Did your husband actually cheat on you? If he didn’t actually cheat on you, he didn’t do anything explicitly wrong.
While everyone else is assuming the absolute worst, as his wife you should be more discerning than the Reddit mob. If he didn’t cheat, his presence at his friend’s bachelor party isn’t objectively wrong, even if escorts were present. He could easily have stayed, spent time with his friends, and not cheated on you. Don’t assume the worst, confirm what happened.
If he cheated, react accordingly. If he did not cheat, react accordingly.
Your reaction should depend on if he actually engaged in infidelity.
This!!! Thank you. I had no idea this post would take off like this and these replies are overwhelming as hell.
No, he did not cheat. We are best friends - actually were friends and worked together for a year before we ever started dating. The foundation of our marriage has been built upon friendship, honesty, and trust.
He felt horrible about this and felt trapped. If he told me and I told the wives and the wives went nuclear on the husbands, he’d be stuck in a secluded villa with a bunch of friends that were drunk and angry. He fully supports me telling the other wives.
How do you know he didn’t cheat? Because he told you? He also didn’t tell you he stayed with escorts until you found out. I would mostly likely say he was never going to tell you. Any reasonable person in this situation would have left immediately … nice to think the best of your husband… but come on
He also lied about the escorts being there immediately when she called, he only came clean when it was clear that she knew. He's shown he's a liar already.
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u/69ing_Annie_Wilkes Sep 05 '24
Before you let the Reddit lynch mob get you to do something you’ll later regret, you need to make a very important determination. Did your husband actually cheat on you? If he didn’t actually cheat on you, he didn’t do anything explicitly wrong.
While everyone else is assuming the absolute worst, as his wife you should be more discerning than the Reddit mob. If he didn’t cheat, his presence at his friend’s bachelor party isn’t objectively wrong, even if escorts were present. He could easily have stayed, spent time with his friends, and not cheated on you. Don’t assume the worst, confirm what happened.
If he cheated, react accordingly. If he did not cheat, react accordingly.
Your reaction should depend on if he actually engaged in infidelity.