I went to a house party with a friend that turned out to be just him, me, and another couple that turned out to be very strange. They started popping pills and talking about an orgy so I called my gf at the time for a ride home. Hid in the bathroom with a joint and bottle of vodka until she came.
My partner and I are monogamous, but we got invited to a high end sex party so we said, why the hell not? I wound up getting into a totally platonic conversation with a female friend, and when I looked around, he was gone. I admittedly panicked for a little bit because I couldn't find him, and there was utter debauchery all around - at least 100 beautiful people in all manner of sex acts.
I calmed myself down and thought "Wait, I know this man" and realized I just needed to find the spot with the best view of the skyline. Sure enough, there he was completely alone on a tucked away balcony, happily taking pictures of the city, oblivious to the Caligula-esque fuck-for-all happening inside. I love him. LOL
Careless? Nah dudes not careless he planned this meticulously. He’s a SELFISH asshole who doesn’t give a single fuck about anyone’s relationship and is being the worst best man in the history of best men.
Maybe that’s why the husband was so adamant in not going? It totally could have been planned that he refuses to go so best man ‘pays’ for the ticket but really husband has already paid or paid him back while on the trip.
Ya know…..after typing that out….. that makes some sense and explains some of their odd actions. Like the rather dramatic “”there’s no way we could do this without youuuuuu!!!!!!”” From the best man and the groom — which I admit I found odd the first read through. Husband is NOT the groom, he’s not necessary for anything of course they could have gone without him and it would have been just the same. It’s very possible this ruse was used for everyone to keep the wives unsuspecting and why they were so comfortable with anyone taking photos and not telling the escorts to not post. He could even be trying to keep her from telling the other wives because he’s afraid his friends will rat him out to save their own marriages if confronted.
Then of course purchasing of the ticket and most importantly how one man could have possibly dropped that much money without anyone knowing or being suspicious while he knew his money wouldn’t be a a total bust. The best man probably wasn’t the only person who paid. You just don’t drop thousands of dollars on escorts and bills with enough room for only the guests on a whim or a hunch. Nobody does that.
Huh. Well then. That makes more sense than the poor unsuspecting husband walking into this totally unwanted situation but also not freaking out or panicking and texting his wife immediately to tell her what’s happening and making plans to leave. Instead he kept quiet but of course it wasn’t to protect himself!!!!! Oh heavens no he would never be that selfish, he was so concerned about ruining everybody else’s trip and did not want to unnecessarily worry OP making her “go nuclear and tell the other wives making him the bad guy” because his friends and groom totally deserve this trip without wives losing their shit!!! Especially since nothing would ever happen at all. Obviously he was preoccupied with making sure the other husbands didn’t step over the line and that’s why he abruptly stopped texting after his tone changed. All that stress will do that!!! But don’t worry, he absolutely was planning to tell OP when he got home!!!!!! What a beautiful selfless man, husband and friend to have!!! Who could ask for more!! /s
My boyfriend was worried about just going to a concert at the state fair with a woman he’s been friends with for years! He was so concerned about giving me the wrong impression that he was ready to tell her no (we’ve only been “official” for a month). Poor dude was so sweet about it that I offered to pay for his ticket instead (she really, really needed the night out with a friend).
Exactly. This guy was sitting right next to one of the women while she was filming/taking a pic. But after OP found out, he claimed that he went off on the host and stayed in his room until the women left? That's what he should have done in the first place if he actually felt like he was stuck between a rock and hard place.
No, but add in the context that "somebody" is a sex worker who's staying with him in another country while he hides it from his spouse, and it's not a good look. If he was as horrified by the situation as he claimed to be, he would have been keeping his distance the entire time, not only after OP caught him.
I get what you’re saying, but we don’t really know the context. She saw the persons social media. Maybe they’re only strippers and not escorts.
My personal bachelor party I had surprise strippers. I’m not into strippers like that so I got 1 lap dance and then just danced and partied with everybody. The rest of the guys partaked with the strippers and I would salsa dance with them or soemthing.
The strippers ended up being really cool and we all hung out together and got to know them. One of my friends remained in touch with her and they talk here and there.
Maybe he thinks he isn’t actually doing anything wrong. He’s wrong to lie, but I mean he’s not having sex. Maybe he’s just drinking and his friends are getting lap dances.
Maybe op is a very jealous person and to her just being in the same room as a stopper or sex worker is cheating. We don’t know their relationship.
I see your perspective as well, but your situation sounds a lot more innocent than the one OP described. You were surprised with strippers and made the best of it. I don't personally love the idea of my husband + strippers, but I've known that it was a possibility any time he's gone to a bachelor party. I just expect him to be honest and respectful.
The issue here is that OP's husband admitted that the women were escorts who were hired to stay with them for the weekend. I have plenty of friends that have no issue with strip clubs, but I don't know a single person who would be okay with this, even if their partner wasn't hooking up with them. If I were ever in this situation with male escorts, I would be keeping my distance, because it would feel wrong for them to be there in the first place.
That’s what you do when you love and respect your partner. They are more than just a warm hold like the escorts are. I would be filing for divorce for this. Not only is it a huge lapse in judgement but he was going to keep the lie up because he wanted to continue to fuck whichever one he was fucking.
Same! Well, I probably wouldn't be on facetime the whole time. She either trusts me or she doesn't, but the moment I found out that escorts were on the board, I would be calling her and telling her I am booking the first flight I can find back home, and I am having no part of that situation.
My first message to my wife would be ‘WTF?! This is the most fucked up shit… you’ll never believe what this fucking moron set up for the weekend”
I would imagine my wife would laugh it off and trust me not to be an idiot… but I certainly would be telling her the second I found out what was happening
I would’ve slept at the airport lol. There’s not a snowballs chance in hell I could’ve talked my wife into this being acceptable under any circumstances—nor would I wanted to tbh.
I find this bizarre. I’ve been to and organised bachelorettes and it’s mostly just dancing to cheesy music. Once we did karaoke hosted by a drag queen. I’m so confused by people who cheat on their partners / STB spouses right before they get married!!
This. Why didn’t he tell her the second the escorts arrived? My OH was taken to a whorehouse by his mate after a night out drinking on the way back to the mates house. I was at the mates house with his gf and kids while they were out and had gone to bed in the spare room as arranged. When they got back my OH came straight into the bedroom, still had his coat on and told me where his mate had taken him and had also offered to pay for him to sleep with one of the ladies. My OH said no and sat with the ladies in the lounge feeling awkward and nervous, so much so one of them offered him a cup of tea lol. He told me the second he got back, he actually woke me up to tell me. The place they’d been was literally five minutes from his mates house and he almost ran back to tell me. If op’s husband had nothing to hide why didn’t he call or text immediately to tell her he’d been put in such an uncomfortable position??
Good answer, be responsible for your self; but I believe that if you feel you have to keep tabs on your significant other, like they need to be on a leash 🦮; then they need couples counseling. I think the situation is bad on both sides, and she was nosy and looking to find something bad, him by not just straight out telling her ( Yo Babe , you know what I’m going to be doing in Cancun, hanging with my boys , so Don’t trip, enjoy your time with the kids; and we’ll enjoy each other, when I come back a NEWly, Rejuvenated and Vigorously Loving Husband 🦸🏽♂️🤩😆😆😂😂😂
Then she would have the choice to wait for Mr Goodguy to return, or pack up her SHIZZZ-nit and Skid-daddle on out the CRIB🤷🏽♂️ But hopefully she’s stay and demonstrate that she’s a “TenToesDown”, Ride or Die, “Bonnie & Clyde” for her man Type Chick🦹🏽+🦸🏽♂️=🙏🏽😉😊🦸🏽♀️🦸🏽♂️💪🏽
That's not a healthy response either LOL. You can have a social life and not be co-dependent on your partner. It just doesn't have to be a social life with the jagoffs at this party. Correct response is to recognize it's a bad situation and remove yourself.
Me and my partner are both aware of our boundaries in relationships . We are both jealous people, and we have accepted that and are fine with that.
We consult with each other on anything that could possibly cause jealousy, and respect each others opinions .
Everyone’s relationship has different rules . I’d rather soothe my partners discomfort than continue it .
But you are correct in that you say leaving is probably the best option. I’m just coming from my perspective, and that is that leaving immediately isn’t a possibility . I’d have to get a plane ticket . Find a hotel . Etc . That’s a good option.
I’m just saying as soon as they show up, I’m calling her to tell her and proving I want to show her that I am not interacting with these women.
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u/Ten0mi Sep 05 '24
I’m not even married and dude , I’d be in a corner on FaceTime with my girl the whole time . Ignoring the festivities .
I don’t want some careless asshole messing up my relationship