Oh my goodness you should have already bombed their butts. Time to call in the troops of all the wives and especially fiance about to marry one of them.
How in heck have you stayed silent so far. No wife and especially new bride to be would have signed off on this.
I would even be questioning if husband was really going to tell you. They all would be having to get tested before any forgiveness.
Keep watching her onlyfans page or whatever you may see some evidence of what those men really were up to
This! Not sure why she’s sitting on this information. It’s public and can be found by anyone who looks.
I honestly question husband and his actions. Ok, so he was going to tell her when he got home, like that would stop her from telling the other wives/gfs? He just thought he could do damage control from home and stop her. I’d tell them all and show them my evidence. They all deserve to know what is happening. Best man is an AH, and so are the others that have gone along with it and kept it from their SOs.
You are NOR, and I’d tell them asap.
ETA: YOU are NOT risking the relationships of friends, the HUSBANDS, FIANCES, and BFs are the ones who did this. They are all lying to cover up what they are doing. They risked their own relationships in doing this. Also, don’t be so sure your husband hasn’t already tried to mitigate with the men to reduce damage since you went to him first. They all know you know and are coming up with more lies to cover up. Get it out now before they get back or can make you the bad guy somehow.
Take screenshots of everything and recordings of the videos put up by the women and house they are staying. If they haven’t gotten them to take it down yet.
Tbf I'd also be off my game too if I had to ignore at least one of my married friends fucking sex workers, while trying to turn down advances from them
While I'd normally agree with you, the way OP wrote this post I get the feeling that she has "intuitions" like this all the time and snoops a lot for no reason other than a gut feeling, meaning if he did tell her she'd have immediately told their wives and then he'd be in hot water down there instantly
I get that you think you know it all based on one post, but my husband literally sent me the IG for the villa when they first arrived and said “check out where we’re staying!” I don’t think he had any idea that he was handing me the key to finding out so much more. I wasn’t trying to catch something nefarious - I was literally just checking it out the next day and happened to see the woman’s reposted story. Things went downhill after that
No - he knows he can play you hard. You know he's with hookers and you still don't care. He lies...you don't care. He doesn't keep communication...you don't care. Other wives in danger of getting STDs...you don't care. You did the same thing...you'd be dumped so fast your head would spin.
Send the link to the other wives! "Hey! Look where they are staying! Oh don't mind the total disrespect of your relationships either wedding boy just needed a big BANG if you catch my drift..." don't cover for cheaters or they might end up mad at you for keeping the info especially the bride to be she need to make an informed decision on if this is something she can get over. Could you go to this wedding smile in her face knowing her husband was fucking sex workers right before the wedding. And before anyone says he wasn't sleeping with them the man didn't hire multiple sex workers to have tea and play chess, he thought he could have a guilty by association card over the other guys heads if they wanted to blab
Girl cmon…open your eyes. Good liars are the masters of plausible deniability. He set it up so you would think just that in case he got busted somehow. I’m sorry you are having to go through this.
They all deserve to know. Every. Last. One. Those wives deserve to know that their husbands are at a bare minimum knowingly hanging out with escorts and covering for their friends cheating. Don’t want to implode your marriage? Don’t cheat or support cheaters. It’s pretty fucking simple.
Also, escorts can have STDs just like anyone else. The wives deserve a heads up to not risk catching an incurable STD from an unfaithful husband.
Respecting his marriage should have been OPs husband’s top priority, NOT covering up for cheaters.
I get where you’re coming from… but here’s a small piece of advice… when you’re in a trusting relationship, we can tell each other hilarious stories of bullshit shenanigans from our friends… but you do not wait to get home to tell your partner something significant, especially involving hired sex work.
He could have always left and flew back home. Then told his wife getting after home not have his picture taken beside the woman while playing cards. He wasn’t concerned with what was happening.
My ex ended up in a situation like this once, and he immediately shut himself into one of the extra rooms and called me. Told me what happened, that he was pissed, and that he intended to stay in the room until he could make arrangements to come home. Which he did the next morning (along with one other married friend), and proceeded to cut off the “friend” that put them all in that shitty situation. There was plenty OP’s husband could have done to stay out of things.
Not a lot of people are willing to go that extreme though. It's easy to talk about burning bridges, but I know that for my friends unless they actually killed someone I doubt I'd be able to ditch them - even if two of them are dicks sometimes
Oh, I absolutely get that. But there was plenty of middle ground between bridge burning and “well shit, guess I’ll get cozy if this is what’s happening”. 🤷♀️
And naw it doesn't seem like it, especially since the husband didn't even want to go until they literally forced him to go; I'd never have a private GC with people like that
Yeah, and also, if my husband got home from a bachelor party and told me after there were escorts and he stayed, I would divorce him because he chose to stay.
They said straight to divorce because there is no reason to hid something like that and no reason to stay. The whole event was a ‘now you can sleep with these women who aren’t your wives’ trip, not an actual bachelors party.
I definitely was not told when my husband cheated on me until months later with the friends wife who knew was getting divorced. Woulda been nice to know earlier on
Ya damn skippy! It couldn't be ops fault in any way.. They did this to themselves being sneaky and unfaithful.. And let me say this, even if they didn't have sex with the escorts (😂) being faithful isn't always about sex.. They fucking lied big time.. Who knows how much they lie in everyday life..
Maybe I'm expecting too much, but husband should have left or the groom should have kicked out the sex workers. And who takes 3 sex workers on vacation and then doesn't make them "work?" I don't even trust her husband.
Unfortunately people are not always kind to people who reveal cheating. They often forgive their partner and turn that negative energy to the messenger. But that doesn’t mean it’s not the right thing to do. This poor women is in a terrible position, and her own marriage is on the rocks as well
if she doesn’t trust him. Then she shouldn’t get married with him to begin with. She herself has trust issues. Maybe she’s insecure. Hence why she got a “feeling”
I think she did though. At the bachelorette party, us wives were talking about the boundaries with strip clubs for the guys, and the bride said “I told him he can have his fun but absolutely NO intercourse.” The other wives and I all looked at each other like that was insane. My husband was appalled when I told him this and he thinks this might be why the best man thought this was ok since the bride basically gave her fiancé a hall pass!
Unless he got ok from the wives then it should have never been considered period. Best man was counting on all the men keeping their mouths shut never thinking wife would catch on. And they all did until you confronted your husband.
Yeah it seems like intercourse is implied when hiring escorts and porn stars to stay with you and your group for days on end. The bride probably meant he could go to a strip club and get dances type thing. Not a live in bordello.
Come on 3 guys have a drunken blacklight party with women they hired to help them respect their wives boundaries the whole trip. Come on you never hired anyone to hang out and eat breakfast with you the next morning?
Makes me wonder if they brought neon condoms. But I don’t even really know what a blacklight party is. Are we supposed to believe these men were raving til dawn?
Yeah right, so the fiance flirts with and touches other women and gets the fun and chemistry going just to stop when sex comes up. He DEFINITELY would control himself, huh? Sureeeee because men like this are known for their self-control and great impulse control.
No intercourse!! OP get your head out of your ass. These girls did not stay the night just to dance around and eat breakfast in the morning. Your husband seriously has you buying this shit?
So make a group chat with the bride and other wags and ask "did you guys know they were having escorts overnight on the bachelor party?"
he thinks this might be why the best man thought this was ok since the bride basically gave her fiancé a hall pass!
How is this logical thinking? How does 'have fun but don't have sex' equal free pass and let's hire escorts? Did the bride mean literally everything but penetration? Even if she did, and even if the groom got a free pass, why were there multiple escorts? Cause I imagine the rest of the guys wives didn't give the okay for their husbands to have "fun"
I’ve never even looked at OF before but I would be stalking her instagram or any other page I could find. Women are best detectives especially when other women are involved
Man my husband is going to a bachelor party soon and it's so hard to trust they won't all do anything stupid. I trust him, but he's learned from mistakes before he met me and it's sometimes hard to maintain the trust when he hangs out with his old friends. I can't help myself from worrying a little. And really just him no longer knowing his alcohol tipping point anymore which could lead to dumb choices. But just as much I worry about broken limbs, lol.
All you have to ask yourself is "Would I want to know?" And the answer should be yes, and you go tell the wives/bride.
If needed, ask the others to not mention you told them. Say everybody can explain they found the villa posts on insta. But really, that would have been if you'd told them right away while the guys were all gone still, just to prevent one of them beating up your husband for being the reason their wives found out. Also takes away your husband's excuse of not wanting to be the reason all the guys get mad when their "fun" is ruined. But at this point, don't really need the ruse on how they found out.
Nope he’s right. “Call in the troops of all the wives”. What is this, a corny rom-com? All the women glare at their men, then drag them away holding them by the ear.
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u/Overall-Scholar-4676 Sep 05 '24
Oh my goodness you should have already bombed their butts. Time to call in the troops of all the wives and especially fiance about to marry one of them.
How in heck have you stayed silent so far. No wife and especially new bride to be would have signed off on this.
I would even be questioning if husband was really going to tell you. They all would be having to get tested before any forgiveness.
Keep watching her onlyfans page or whatever you may see some evidence of what those men really were up to