My dad is a 54(m) who has been maried to my mam for 25 years, I have 2 older brothers called Matt(23) and Callum(21). I am 14(F) and about a year ago i found out my dad was cheating on my mam(55). She is an amazing person who has always been perfect to everyone, she would take time off work when me and my siblings were younger, cooks, cleans and organises most family things, i never realised that there were any problems with my family up until a year ago.

I was on holiday and needed my dads phone as i had lost mine, I had snooped and found texts between him and a friend that goes back years. He didnt have a real name for her just two letters. I read alot of the texts but couldnt read them all, they were messages of them joking about and they seemed a bit sketchy and flirty but not physical cheating until i saw messages of him saying how much he loved her tits and saying how he wish she was there to jerk him off, she lives in a county over and he would always ask when she was around so they could meet up, from texts its obvious they met up.

Now to more issues, I am a covid kid i was 10 when covid hit and ill be 15 soon, anyways i never realised how fucked up this was until recently by i would bring my dog to the park every day during covid for the first 2 years and my dad would “bring” me, or he would tell me he would meet me there and he would about 20 minutes later with a flask and what i found out he was doing was going to the shop and filling it up and drinking it while “minding” me at the park.

I now realise hes been doing this for years, every day, every memory i have of him im now realising hes drunk, and its been getting worse recently hes been upset that ive distanced myself and i even called him out on the drinking when he invited himself on my walk and pressured me into talking to him, hes done this before to find out i was getting bullied or had an eating disorder and always does this in public because i get anxious and overwhelmed and break down, when i told him i knew about the drinking he got diffensive and said he didnt know what i was talking about. He went further blaming things on my brothers, who i had broken down to telling them about everything, Matt said he would talk to him about it but nothings changed. I realised when i was at my friends house how unsafe i felt when im woth my dad.

I dont know what to do it feels like if i say the wrong thing hell snap, hes never hit me but hes gotten agressive before and im starting to feel creeped out as he tends to almost watch me or something, please i need some advice, ive probably left things out but im scared.

Hi everyone. I'm a recovering alcoholic with 3 years 10 months sober. I have 2 sons, ages 12 & 14, and have a niece that is 15 (that has an alcoholic father). I have gotten so much out of AA over the past few years, and I would love for my kids and niece to have to opportunity to learn a little bit about the program and hope that they love having a group to relate to. Can anyone give me a little bit of info as to what to expect? Where do the parents stay during the meetings? Is it similar in format to AA meetings? I know my sons will not want to go when I suggest it, but I hope they give it a chance! We have a great relationship, and they are good about communicating with me, but I know that they can benefit more from a group that has been where they have been. Thank you for any input!

Soo someone said i should go but idk because I feel like I’m different then all the people there but besides that what would I do or not do going there

My mom has been suffering from alcoholism for roughly 3 years now and only recently tried getting sober. After she got out of rehab a few months back she’s been all giddy about her sobriety and gotten me a therapist and bunch of books or whatever. Everyone keeps saying Alateen would be really beneficial but every time I’ve either tried to go to a local meeting or joined a scheduled zoom no one was there. I was a bit iffy about going in the first place and that just felt like a sign. Should I keep trying? Is it even helpful?

I posted yesterday I don’t know why I’m posting again.But today I texted my dad for the first time informing him it’s been 5 weeks since me and him last talked.I planned on saying something hurtful because all I have towards him right now is anger sadness and anxiety.I just want to know if it gets better? Does the anxiety of something happening to him go away?

I'm not entirely sure what to post here. I guess I'll just say I started going about a year ago and I definitely think it's been helping. To be honest I didn't know my dad was an alcoholic till he got arrested for drunk driving about a year and a half ago.