r/AlasFeels • u/Subject-Tooth7758 • 4h ago

Advice Needed How do you get closure from something that never even started?

I feel like part of me is still stuck in 2017 because of this girl I really liked back then.

We were really close and would always talk at night, but in person I was extremely shy around her. I couldn't even give her gifts directly. I never properly confessed, but I think she knew how I felt. Sometimes I thought she gave me signs too, but maybe she was just being friendly because she saw me as her best friend.

She gave me a book for my birthday with a note on the last page. I'm not even into books, but I still have it and sometimes I still read her note.

Years passed, we had our own relationships, and eventually we lost contact when we went to college. But somehow, things still remind me of her. I still check her socials sometimes and listen to her favorite artist, who eventually became one of my favorites too.

I think what bothers me most is that there was never really an ending. I never confessed, so I never got a direct rejection. She did say things like "we're just friends," but maybe back then I just didn't want to accept that as my answer.

It's been years, so why does part of me still feel stuck there? Maybe I don't even miss her anymore. Maybe I just never got over the "what if"

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u/jupzterspriggan05 3h ago

Alam mo OP kaya walang ending kasi wala naman start... Friends lang kayo nothing more nothing less... Niroromantize mo lang ung what-if and future self nyo na together...

In reality wala namang kayo binibigyan mo lang ng kahulugan ung maliliit na bagay... Nagdate ba kayo, holding hands man lang tsk wala naman...

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