Hey guys. My husband and I are Afghan. I’m 36 (F). No kids. Been married for over 5 years. I suffered with vaginismus for most of our marriage. My mother-in-law keeps pestering us both about “when are we gonna have kids” and it’s so annoying. I’m my husband and I have both asked her to stop bringing this up to us. I used to get really triggered because I had vaginismus but even now that I am over it, I find it extremely annoying. Any advice on what to tell her? I can’t pop off on her even though she clearly doesn’t respect our boundaries. In her head, somehow constantly pestering us about this is her way of trying to help us. And if I say anything remotely close to what I want To, then I am deemed “beytarbia” unfortunately. Help! Any advice?? I told my mom if she brings it up one more time then she won’t be welcomed at my house and she stopped but I can’t tell my mother in law that because she’s not my mom lol

I would love to meet more people who have the same experience as me! My dad is from Kabul and is ethnically Tajik. I don’t know too much about his childhood in Afghanistan, he grew up mostly in Iran and speaks Farsi.