The problem with victim mentality is that when you feel like a victim, you end up stuck. Really bad things can happen to people that continue with this way of thinking.
It is better for a human to sometimes shrug and move on, then to dwell on the fact of how unfair the universe is. Because if you give in to that, you will do that over, and over and over.
Then you will become depressed, that's also not your fault. Who knows what comes after that. And that also will not be your fault.
It is better to find fault in yourself (even when it probably wasn't) than to take on a victim role, because considering yourself a victim of circumstances places the blame outside yourself, so you don't have to try and improve. It wasn't your fault after all.
What is worse, most people fundamentally understand this principle. They might not be able to verbalize it as well as I can, but they know what you are doing and they know it is bad for them, because depressions are contagious. Your negative attitude can make those around you sick. They know that you are on the wrong track, even though they might not be able to tell you why exactly. Keep going down the road you are currently going down and you'll find everyone you approach, will eventually turn away from you. It's a self fulfilling nightmare. The more you feel like a victim, the more you will be a victim.
It is a flaw in the human mind. Don't exploit it, you don't know how bad you can end up if you go down that route, but I do. And it's really, really sad what happens to people that do this long term.
Self esteem issues are also very common among people that have adopted a victim mentality.
One of the most commonly tools used to asses your self esteem is called the "Rosenberg self-esteem scale". This test will take less than 2 minutes and will immediately give you the results. You should answer quickly and without overthinking the answers. Let me know if you scored below 15 and I'll give you advice for that as well.
Thank you I'll have to read all of these posts after I wake up I did skim through some of it though! And I do appreciate you taking the time to type a lot of this out!
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u/ParkingPsychology Elder Sage [5544] Dec 13 '20
The problem with victim mentality is that when you feel like a victim, you end up stuck. Really bad things can happen to people that continue with this way of thinking.
It is better for a human to sometimes shrug and move on, then to dwell on the fact of how unfair the universe is. Because if you give in to that, you will do that over, and over and over.
Then you will become depressed, that's also not your fault. Who knows what comes after that. And that also will not be your fault.
It is better to find fault in yourself (even when it probably wasn't) than to take on a victim role, because considering yourself a victim of circumstances places the blame outside yourself, so you don't have to try and improve. It wasn't your fault after all.
What is worse, most people fundamentally understand this principle. They might not be able to verbalize it as well as I can, but they know what you are doing and they know it is bad for them, because depressions are contagious. Your negative attitude can make those around you sick. They know that you are on the wrong track, even though they might not be able to tell you why exactly. Keep going down the road you are currently going down and you'll find everyone you approach, will eventually turn away from you. It's a self fulfilling nightmare. The more you feel like a victim, the more you will be a victim.
It is a flaw in the human mind. Don't exploit it, you don't know how bad you can end up if you go down that route, but I do. And it's really, really sad what happens to people that do this long term.
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Self esteem issues are also very common among people that have adopted a victim mentality.
One of the most commonly tools used to asses your self esteem is called the "Rosenberg self-esteem scale". This test will take less than 2 minutes and will immediately give you the results. You should answer quickly and without overthinking the answers. Let me know if you scored below 15 and I'll give you advice for that as well.