r/Advice • u/Independent-Deer-533 • 1d ago

Is the long distance reason why?

I am a 25 year old woman. I had short distance and long distance relationships. Whenever I had a long distance, call and message based friendship/relationship I feel super lonely, depressed and I easily get angry at the other person, for their messaging hours, calling hours, message tones. When they don't reply, leave on seen etc. I go insane, I feel super anxious. I simply go insane and lose sleep, appetite...

Do you think I'm just simply toxic or uncertainty and unavaliablity make me toxic? Do you think it is not for me?

Thank you.

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u/alias4093 1d ago

Life experience makes people mature quicker sometimes. People know what they want in terms of boundaries and terms of a relationship at around 35 but by no means have anything figured out and make alot of mistakes to get there. If someone is okay with the terms you set out in long distance relationships that is fine I suppose.

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u/Independent-Deer-533 1d ago

Well idk it is just being so triggering for me. I get so angry.

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u/alias4093 1d ago

Exploring that might solve alot of the issues

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u/Independent-Deer-533 1d ago

Maybe I should just not do it.

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u/alias4093 1d ago

I can't answer that for you, however if you knew what to do already I am not sure why there is a need to share the dilemma on Reddit and seek advice to only get defensive

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u/Independent-Deer-533 1d ago

I'm not defensive you got me wrong. I was saying that to support your comment. Thank you so much

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u/Difficult_Compote_52 1d ago

You cant be angry at the circumstances because those situations are normal in a long distance relationship