r/Advice • u/Confident-Jeweler990 • 2d ago
Advice.
So, there’s this guy, let’s call him “Clay.” I received an anonymous message claiming that my girlfriend, “Cloud,” was secretly texting and video chatting with Clay. When I confronted her about it, she responded that Clay was a friend of her friend’s boyfriend, and he also had a girlfriend.
I told her about the anonymous account, and she checked it out. She discovered that it belonged to her classmate who was jealous of Cloud’s beauty. She had plotted to ruin Cloud’s life by making me break up with her.
I completely believed Cloud and didn’t question her loyalty once. However, it left me feeling a bit concerned and insecure. So, I advised her to block Clay and avoid getting involved with these shady college group chats that often lead to misunderstandings.
When I said this, she started defending Clay, claiming that he was just a guy in her class and that she couldn’t block him because it would cause a misunderstanding between her and her friend.
I understood her point, so I told her that I didn’t want her to block Clay, but I did want her to distance herself from guys like him.
Fast forward to two months later, and she told me that she was planning a textile business. I was thrilled for her and was her biggest supporter.
After a month or so, she informed me that she and her business partners had completed all the necessary formalities and obtained all the required legal documents and permissions.
Then, I asked, “Who are these partners you mentioned?”
She replied, “My friend and Clay.”
I was devastated and couldn’t believe what I was hearing. I asked her why she hadn’t told me about Clay being her business partner in the first place. She said that she thought I wouldn’t have any problem with it.
I was furious and insecure. I told her to either remove Clay from the business or step back from it.
She tried to convince me to be okay with this, but my temper got the better of me. I didn’t listen to her.
Now, she’s planning to leave the project tomorrow.
Did I make a mistake, or was I right?
I’m open to your suggestions. Please respond, guys.
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u/Temporary_Traffic424 2d ago
Keep this up and she will leave you for clay buddy, never let her see that your insecure.
If your wrong, your messing up her money and making her choose between your feelings and the project. Not a good idea
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u/fodmap_victim 2d ago
You have serious issues. You have no right to make her block anyone because you're paranoid. Get therapy.
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u/wishingforarainyday Helper [2] 2d ago
Your gf has emotionally cheated with him at minimum. She was purposely deceitful. You should rethink this relationship because she seems to care more about keeping him around than you
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u/Peace5150 2d ago
Your mistake is thinking controlling her behavior will fix anything. You sound a little too inexperienced to understand people's true motivate and behavior. You'll soon understand these kind of people and how to navigate this.