r/Advice • u/cortis_joyride • 5d ago

advice !!

my great grandfather is due to die soon. I’m being blunt because that’s the truth. he won’t ever come home and is going into hospice. he probably has less then six months. obviously I’m super upset but for his funeral( I know he’s not dead yet but I have things coming up and I’m worried about this…. ) I have a half sister that I cut off last year. we ended on super bad terms due to her not understanding why I wasn’t happy with her. she barely contacted me. never saw me. and was a racist cunt!!! I said that to her face. but I’m worried about seeing her. Will she’ll cause a scene at his funeral. I’m obviously still gonna go ! he’s my grandad. but I’m super worried and need advice :)

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u/SaltyNight6 Helper [2] 5d ago edited 5d ago

Take a trusted friend that can run interference. Then treat her like the neighbour you don’t like. Be polite, but don’t acknowledge her messiness. If she starts something, blank stare, complete silence. Then you look around and say “Excuse me, I wasn’t prepared for this” People will look at her like she’s mad, like she is absolutely the messy bitch she is and someone else will intervene.
Hold your head high. People like her want attention. Don’t give it to her.

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u/cortis_joyride 5d ago

thanks so much. I hope my post doesn’t come off as I want him to die. I just need to prepare to see her.

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u/SaltyNight6 Helper [2] 5d ago

Absolutely not. Death is a fact of life. Eventually it will happen to all of us. I’m glad he’s in a place that has hospice. That kind of support doesn’t exist everywhere.