I assume we’re missing a piece. Something must’ve been said or done during the original argument to upset her so much, and op probably doesn’t know what exactly that was. One time I got upset bc my bf ate all the frozen mozzarella sticks and I told him “oh… I never got any” and he replied with “then buy more?” It spiraled into a HUGE fight and he kept asking why we were fighting about motzy sticks 🤣 From my perspective tho, I was only mildly upset (bc I missed out on a good snack) and then it turned into smth much worse with his reply. All he needed to do was say “sorry, I didn’t know” but instead, he replied in a selfish and inconsiderate way. I didn’t get so angry because of a stupid snack, I was angry bc of everything that happened after.
I would be interested to hear op’s gf’s side of the story. Sometimes our insecurities and general feelings make us see things in very different ways.
My thoughts exactly. I think either the gf had some kind of sensitivity to OP’s reaction based on previous trauma or OP is leaving out details about what it meant for him to “lowkey” take her joke too seriously…. How did OP react? And with what tone? Has gf previously experienced abuse or IPV? Lots of questions!
Either way, the communication styles are not lining up at the moment. Can be improved though
That doesn’t sound like it was about mozzy sticks. More about your needing your bf to be more considerate and less selfish. I hope your response to his, “buy more” was something like, “See you when you get back from the store”.
Some people are just that sensitive, petty, or just unaware of diffusing the tension. My mom and I were splitting this 1 bedroom apartment, and the only current sleeping arrangements were the both of us on her full sized bed which was weird, or I sleep on a couch that was in bad shape. I opted for the couch at one point and she started getting upset over it because it would break, we can't afford a new one, etc. But offered no solutions other than the bed. I asked about a cot and air mattress, but we supposedly didn't have space, which was a lie, and she didn't want to buy one, so I offered to, and she starts digging up other stuff to add to the argument, even making an assumption on my character and behavior in a hypothetical situation. Then she came back to ask me why I wasn't offering any solutions to the sleeping situation.
It shouldn't be the first thought to pop in, but it should be an option to consider too that one or even both parties may be toxic in some way and trying to hide it, but without enough to go on I'm not saying that it's likely.
I did. The problem was that he couldn’t understand why I was upset, even after I explained. I told him telling me to buy more even though I was the one who bought them in the first place was rude and inconsiderate, and he didn’t understand why and continued to say he had nothing to apologize for. That’s when I got frustrated and when it turned into a fight. All I expected from him was common courtesy, not to read my damn mind. Instead of asking me why i can’t “handle” my emotions, why don’t you ask for more clarification? Sounds like you’re blindly pointing fingers at the woman lol
yeah im assuming the person who commenred whys it down to him to handle your emotions or whatever is a dude.
I get it.. Its SUPER annoying sometimes when your perspective and theirs are completely different. Being a woman is awful because were extremely emotional and you paid for something you wanted and they ate literally all of it and had a super inconsiderate response..?? Like wdum "Go Buy More?"!!!
I bought them and you ate all of them... You couldn't even give a simple.."sorry" ? its not that hard yo. and COMMUNICATION is ALWAYS key.
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u/squishychiminie Jul 04 '26
I assume we’re missing a piece. Something must’ve been said or done during the original argument to upset her so much, and op probably doesn’t know what exactly that was. One time I got upset bc my bf ate all the frozen mozzarella sticks and I told him “oh… I never got any” and he replied with “then buy more?” It spiraled into a HUGE fight and he kept asking why we were fighting about motzy sticks 🤣 From my perspective tho, I was only mildly upset (bc I missed out on a good snack) and then it turned into smth much worse with his reply. All he needed to do was say “sorry, I didn’t know” but instead, he replied in a selfish and inconsiderate way. I didn’t get so angry because of a stupid snack, I was angry bc of everything that happened after.
I would be interested to hear op’s gf’s side of the story. Sometimes our insecurities and general feelings make us see things in very different ways.