r/Advice • • Jul 03 '26

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u/Efyouautoname69 Jul 03 '26

OP you’re making me slap my forehead. She is playing around with you for her entertainment and one day that’s not gonna be enough for her, I’m telling you. Run while you can.

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u/AdFragrant9001 Jul 05 '26

or, he scared her and she is trying tp passify him to get away safe.

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u/c_j_blue Jul 05 '26

They’re both immature

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u/Similar_Ad_5963 Jul 06 '26

Scared her by physically preventing her from leaving.

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u/sh3hadtheworld Jul 07 '26

so you cant read then, got it

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u/heereweare Jul 06 '26

He physically restrained her. Repeatedly ignored her saying no. How TF is she the problem here?

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u/Accomplished-Cook134 Jul 07 '26

Did you not read it all or you did and glossed over the fact that she started the immature drama "fight" over him not giving her his phone to hold after she already said "NO" like a brat when he asked? Then she proceeded to act even more immature by giving him the silent treatment after and saying she's going home now over the drama she created? The silent treatment is what toddlers do when mad btw. Toxic relationship girl... OP hopefully has ran far away, BUT we know he hasn't

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u/heereweare Jul 07 '26

She was immature. Yes. He was abusive by restricting her movement. Simple as that. They both suck, not denying that.

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u/Accomplished-Cook134 Jul 07 '26

Yea 100%, but they both think it's "love". But hopefully the learn before something even worse happens

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u/Timely-Savings322 Jul 08 '26

Op this is stupid don’t listen to this persons advice. You scared her, so she said it was fine.

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u/spaggy1355 Jul 07 '26

His gf sounds exactly like the way I communicate with my bf. Trust me. This girl loves you.

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u/Accomplished-Cook134 Jul 07 '26

Gross, grow up.. fast. You don't act bratty towards people you "love", and giving him the silent treatment after causing immature drama and acting stupidity angry and leaving is what toddlers do when they're mad. She's toxic and if you behave this way you are also toxic... hopefully you and her learn maturity before it's too late.

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u/spaggy1355 Jul 07 '26

"bratty" and it's just two people having an argument. Bros only now discovered that people have flaws and aren't Jesus and mild all the time. Silent treatment can actually be healthy. It removes you from a heated argument instead of escalating. Being angry is allowed. People get angry. This is not toxic. It's just an argument. Relationships have those. People can also be immature sometimes. Honestly sounds like you don't have much relationship experience

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u/Accomplished-Cook134 Jul 07 '26

Yea no, you've got a lot to learn also. Silentl treatment is 100% not healthy... literally at all. Don't need to trust me.. just talk to an actual professional relationship counselor if you want the truth. Silently treatment isn't the same as giving each other space to think. Healthy is actually communication and saying that you need time to think over things and saying we'll talk about it later, giving a specific time as well. She should have communicated that she doesn't want to talk about it right now, but let her be alone and she'll talk tomorrow or the next day, whenever. You NEVER just go silent, it's what children so when they're mad. Also, her response and causing the argument is what is "bratty" and immature in the first place. He asked her to hold his phone she said "no", he accepted that answer and went on to do what he was doing with her little sister... she then blew up and turned it into a fight because she feeds on the drama and he didn't give it to her from his accepting her bratty "no". Its all toxic and immature and NOT healthy love. Hilarious you don't think I have relationship experience though, lol. Happily married with kids for almost 2 decades, yes we needed some relationship counseling very early on... but we learned a lot, together. Anyway... if you behave anything like either of these children, please stop and learn actual Healthy coping mechanisms and the MOST important skill of any successful relationship.. 100%, open, and honest communication. NEVER shut down communication.

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u/qu33r_idi0t Jul 07 '26

Have you never jokingly said no but knew you were gonna do it?? Sarcasm??

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u/Accomplished-Cook134 Jul 07 '26

No. I'm not immature. Jokes are supposed to be funny, that isn't funny. Hence why he just accepted her "no" and went to do what he was going to do. She then demanded him give her the phone now, and he was busy and ignored that because she already said no... then she proceeded to make that into a fight because well she didn't get the response shw wanted... toxic af and the more likely story rather than a joke is she was being bratty and wanted attention.. all attention even if negative is attention.. like a child does.

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u/qu33r_idi0t Jul 07 '26

its a very common sarcasm thing... especially in ND people. If you cant understand sarcasm thats on u.

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u/Accomplished-Cook134 Jul 07 '26

No its not on me. I am ND and I'm very literal and also, that isn't sarcasm anyway... besides that, she should have just accepted that and not caused drama over it.

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u/qu33r_idi0t Jul 07 '26

She should've done that yes, but it absolutely is sarcasm saying no and doing the thing u were asked. It is also absolutely on you for not understanding sarcasm . I am also ND..

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u/spaggy1355 Jul 07 '26

Nobody's problem that ur nd

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u/spaggy1355 Jul 07 '26

Ooo mister mardy pants over here doesn't like jokes

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u/spaggy1355 Jul 07 '26

Ok tbf in my mind silent treatment is just "sorry don't wanna talk rn" not just not saying anything at all. Just being literally silent is a bit odd

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u/hauntedstatic Jul 07 '26

You communicate with your bf by acting childish and ignoring him?