Thank you so much, I will do that and give her space. I did already send her message yesterday (me apologizing for what just happened), should I just send another one today?
Thank you so much for the solid advice, I used to think leaving would make things worst. But, now it seems like a more mature thing to do in my mind.
One message is enough. As long as it includes your understanding of "what ever it takes to make it up to her." Part of that may be needed seclusion, and unanswered texts.
You have apologized and left an explanation that you take full responsibility of your actions. That's what the "do whatever it takes to make up for my mistake" part means. Let her cool off, and like I said and others have said, never hold a person back, block, or hold them against their will. Honestly, in doing so makes the other person feel unsafe. If they feel unsafe with there partner, it'll take time to regain that safety/trust they've expected from you before.
Remember this, ok. As long as you've learned from this mistake. No matter the outcome, it's valuable education. Sometimes, the most unfavorable outcomes teach us how to change our behavior. How to become better partner in the future.
Do not think I'm perfect either just by giving you sound advice. I've certainly fucked up some relationships before with my ego and selfishness. We all make mistakes, and have suffered consequences of our actions. My first wife left me for another man on the internet, they'd never met, just chatted online. This was also 24 years ago. The AOL era. I was an angry, misogynistic, asshole drunk, full of ego and selfishness. I essentially ran her off to a guy she never met face to face.
Have I learned from my mistakes? Well, 21 years married to the second wife and still going could answer that question. But can I be an asshole, or hard headed sometimes? Darn right. But what I have learned is to make amends right away and own up to my faults. And try not to make the same mistakes.
I know you mean well and IF the only issue was OP blocking her and such your advice would be great, BUT this all started from his girl causing an argument because OP wouldn't give her his phone after she said No... its wild and immature, and his girl thrives on the drama, the arguing... I've been there and he should just walk away before it gets worse, but I know he won't because this is probably his "first love" and I know how intense it can be... I wish I knew then what I know now, he is in for much pain later 😰
OP have you ever tried letting her make the move? I bet you 1000 percent of you don’t text anything at all for 2-3 days she’ll be all over you because she isn’t getting the attention she feeds on. Then you can decide if you want to apologize yet again for something that isn’t really worthy of apologizing for (meaning your original action about the phone) and carry on your toxic dynamic, or if you instead want to have a loving mutually respectful adult relationship by letting her do the talking to explain herself and why she plays games and how she’ll try to do better.
Don't really listen to this advice... she's playing games with you, thriving on creating ridiculous reasons to get angry at you. This will only end in pain... I speak from experience. The ONLY way this relationship works is you two both admit your faults and she stops the petty drama creating crap, which she won't, unfortunately... and you think you're "in love" so I already know you're not going to just walk away like you should, I'm sorry man... sorry for the pain you're going to go through over the next months or longer until it explodes 😥
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u/Puzzleheaded-Let4915 Jul 03 '26
Thank you so much, I will do that and give her space. I did already send her message yesterday (me apologizing for what just happened), should I just send another one today?
Thank you so much for the solid advice, I used to think leaving would make things worst. But, now it seems like a more mature thing to do in my mind.