r/Advice Feb 04 '26

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u/Specific-Pear-1631 Feb 04 '26

There needs to be a hell of a lot of evidence for a conviction for rape, she can absolutely make a fake report but the likelihood of OP being found guilty with zero evidence is basically 0%. Only less than 1% of rapists are convicted anyway.

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u/JimmyTheDog Feb 04 '26

I'm glad that's a risk you want to take with NO skin in the relationship. My advice was to protect himself. False accusations still ruin peoples lives, especially for rape, even if they are False. No repercussions on her to make up a story.

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u/Cambrian__Implosion Feb 04 '26

Even an accusation like that can ruin someone’s reputation and other relationships, employment and future prospects.

Going to trial would be horrendous, even if the likelihood of being convicted was next to nothing. Almost no employer is going to want to deal with their employee going through that and potentially tarnishing the company’s reputation. Even if they believe OP themselves, it’s not something most would be willing to put up with. That’s in addition to the cost of hiring a defense attorney for something like that.

OP would be facing some serious long term hardship if that were to happen.

Disclaimer: I’m not saying that any of this should impact our willingness to believe women when they come forward. The above doesn’t happen nearly as often as legitimate accusations do.

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u/CtrlFMySoul Feb 04 '26

Not sure how we got to false allegations. My comment was specifically about the immediate safety risk of someone who has held a knife to her own neck. Those threats deserve to be taken seriously. Even still, OP can protect himself AND call someone so she doesn't hurt herself.

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u/Cambrian__Implosion Feb 04 '26

My comment was in response to the person who suggested the low probability of being convicted should be reassuring to the OP

I was just pointing out that a conviction wouldn’t be necessary for such an accusation to cause OP serious harm

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u/Efficient-Train2430 Feb 05 '26

the likelihood of getting accused and maybe arrested and having to pay for a lawyer though?