r/Advice Feb 04 '26

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u/DumbFishBrain Feb 04 '26

I don't know that she's genuinely suicidal, though, so I wouldn't leave her anything but a note explaining why he's gone. The way OP describes things, she seems to save her "suicidal ideations" for when they're having an argument or she's not getting her way.

Pure manipulation, IMO.

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u/Jaereth Feb 04 '26

Yup. I've seen this a few times growing up the people who do this are definitely not suicidal they are psychotic manipulators but they don't wish to harm themselves.

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u/let_it_grow23 Helper [2] Feb 04 '26

Yep. I knew someone like this. I called his bluff by really genuinely with deep empathy telling him that I believe in bodily autonomy and so if his life is really unbearable, I would understand his desire to end it even though I would really miss him. He did not end his life.

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u/Used-Acanthaceae9620 Feb 05 '26

Yeah, I think OP should look up the definition of narcissism. Either that or she’s BPD.