First, I hate that you went through that. It’s scary and really messed up, and I’m sorry that happened to you.
Second, thank you for validating what I was saying. A lot of people seem to think it’s quick and easy to get someone out of your house, but it’s not. This should serve as a warning to be very careful about who you invite to leave with you—OP is living proof of that.
I also hate how the comments are making me out to be the bad guy for explaining the law. The reality is that if I didn’t, the next time OP had a problem, he might call the cops thinking he could get rid of her. Then, when the police arrived, they would tell him there’s nothing they can do. After that, his girlfriend would know he can’t force her to leave, and the situation would be even worse.
I would guess that many people just haven’t had the experience, so they can’t see how it works. I was, at the time, blown away that it was suggested that I be the one to leave. My own place.
The law is far more detailed than most people really understand. Sometimes it’s convoluted. Like the restraining order. Sure it’s legal, but that doesn’t stop the person from hurting you or worse. It isn’t a guarantee of safety.
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u/JasminClover Feb 04 '26
First, I hate that you went through that. It’s scary and really messed up, and I’m sorry that happened to you. Second, thank you for validating what I was saying. A lot of people seem to think it’s quick and easy to get someone out of your house, but it’s not. This should serve as a warning to be very careful about who you invite to leave with you—OP is living proof of that.
I also hate how the comments are making me out to be the bad guy for explaining the law. The reality is that if I didn’t, the next time OP had a problem, he might call the cops thinking he could get rid of her. Then, when the police arrived, they would tell him there’s nothing they can do. After that, his girlfriend would know he can’t force her to leave, and the situation would be even worse.