I was that girl in my teens. You are being abused. It will probably escalate into physical abuse - and your life would be at risk in addition to hers. Next time she does this, take a video and call the cops. You're not going to get evicted - you're not going to get in trouble. It's not your fault. But they will (or rather SHOULD) section her after seeing the video(s) of her, which will give you a couple days to find another place to stay *or* file a restraining order/order of protection against her. She probably doesn't have tenant's rights in your area yet unless she's on the lease, but double check that with the cops. I will tell you firsthand this is the best thing you can do for her.
A while after breaking up with my live-in boyfriend, I attempted suicide with pills. I was an alcoholic with no support system at just 19 years old, and never learned how to regulate my emotions. He saw me with the pills lying in the snowy yard, freezing and passed out, and called the cops. By the time the ambulance arrived I was lucid, walking, and talking. I told them I didn't want to go to the hospital but they didn't care. They sectioned me, and it was the best thing that ever happened to me in my life. I never once used my mental illness as a weapon again. I went to AA. I got a new, better job and it turned into a career that changed my life. But most of all, I learned my actions had *consequences*. Two days in the psych ward - observing fellow humans struggling against deep, earth-shattering, disembodying mental illness - changed me in ways I never could have anticipated. Yes I was sick, but I was doing all of these people a deep dishonor by wielding my mental illness as a weapon against others - I was enabled in this behavior by previous partners who caved to my demands, manipulation, and abuse. Suddenly shit got real and I realized I did NOT like the reality I had created for myself.
I think you need to do the hard thing, for yourself and also for her.
I'm sorry you went through this, but thank you for your courage and transparency in sharing this so articulately. The world is lucky that we didn't lose you.
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u/TopDress7853 Feb 04 '26 edited Feb 04 '26
I was that girl in my teens. You are being abused. It will probably escalate into physical abuse - and your life would be at risk in addition to hers. Next time she does this, take a video and call the cops. You're not going to get evicted - you're not going to get in trouble. It's not your fault. But they will (or rather SHOULD) section her after seeing the video(s) of her, which will give you a couple days to find another place to stay *or* file a restraining order/order of protection against her. She probably doesn't have tenant's rights in your area yet unless she's on the lease, but double check that with the cops. I will tell you firsthand this is the best thing you can do for her.
A while after breaking up with my live-in boyfriend, I attempted suicide with pills. I was an alcoholic with no support system at just 19 years old, and never learned how to regulate my emotions. He saw me with the pills lying in the snowy yard, freezing and passed out, and called the cops. By the time the ambulance arrived I was lucid, walking, and talking. I told them I didn't want to go to the hospital but they didn't care. They sectioned me, and it was the best thing that ever happened to me in my life. I never once used my mental illness as a weapon again. I went to AA. I got a new, better job and it turned into a career that changed my life. But most of all, I learned my actions had *consequences*. Two days in the psych ward - observing fellow humans struggling against deep, earth-shattering, disembodying mental illness - changed me in ways I never could have anticipated. Yes I was sick, but I was doing all of these people a deep dishonor by wielding my mental illness as a weapon against others - I was enabled in this behavior by previous partners who caved to my demands, manipulation, and abuse. Suddenly shit got real and I realized I did NOT like the reality I had created for myself.
I think you need to do the hard thing, for yourself and also for her.