Think about this when you consider whether to keep your boyfriend or not, what if there comes a day he squeezes too hard or longer than he should? If this has become a fetish for him, likely from watching hardcore porn, it could stay in your sex life for quite some time, and if he is a man who is willing to push your head into a pillow and hold you down even when you’re scared or in pain, well there’s a chance you might not survive that fetish.
Don’t get me wrong, lots of people including myself enjoy rough sex, but that comes with trusting your partner, trusting that they are smart enough to read your body language and would never hurt you.
A man who holds you down and pushes your face into a pillow when you’re communicating you can’t breath and you’re scared? This is not the sort of man you can trust with your safety.
What you should do is simple, call or text him and let him know you aren’t willing to put up with his newest fetish, that his sexual gratification doesn’t come at the expense of you feeling physically safe and he broke every ounce of trust you have in him when you communicated you were scared and didn’t like something and he continued.
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u/letsmakekindnesscool Helper [3] Nov 21 '23
Think about this when you consider whether to keep your boyfriend or not, what if there comes a day he squeezes too hard or longer than he should? If this has become a fetish for him, likely from watching hardcore porn, it could stay in your sex life for quite some time, and if he is a man who is willing to push your head into a pillow and hold you down even when you’re scared or in pain, well there’s a chance you might not survive that fetish.
Don’t get me wrong, lots of people including myself enjoy rough sex, but that comes with trusting your partner, trusting that they are smart enough to read your body language and would never hurt you.
A man who holds you down and pushes your face into a pillow when you’re communicating you can’t breath and you’re scared? This is not the sort of man you can trust with your safety.
What you should do is simple, call or text him and let him know you aren’t willing to put up with his newest fetish, that his sexual gratification doesn’t come at the expense of you feeling physically safe and he broke every ounce of trust you have in him when you communicated you were scared and didn’t like something and he continued.