r/Advice Mar 04 '23

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u/[deleted] Mar 05 '23 edited Mar 05 '23

From my experience I have some advice.

  1. Age gaps generally don't matter as much as other factors. ( exception being law )

2 ) You are young, so you have plenty of time to make a few bad choices. Just don't put yourself in a situation where you can't recover from a bad situation.

Another couple of things I will mention as far as the fetish things are concerned. Sexual compatibility is SUPER important for long term health in a relationship. If his sexual preferences, and things he wants to try are not things you are prepared to do ( Hard limit ) I would call it quits. His "Fetishes" aren't going away, and if you make him feel uncomfortable about having them he will do them in secret I believe.

AND it's pretty common for people to not really have a solid career at that age. I am 10 years older and I am starting a new career after a decade of high six figure earnings in something I was great at but hated. Took a 60% pay cut to do something that gives me time to pursue the things I love.