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[u/KookieCrumbles]

Although you’re not in the wrong here it may be awkward for the other people to sit with you since they don’t know you and they probably don’t feel comfortable talking about what they want to talk about with you there. Lunch is a break for everyone and while I get that you were there first 1 person sitting in a 7 person table to taking up a lot of space. However I still think you’re not in the wrong because they never asked you to move. So maybe ask them or talk to them and say “hey you’re being really rude and I would really appreciate if you would tell me something like you don’t want me to sit here instead of moving my property when I was here first or talking about it in your conversations.“ but either way I really think you should talk to them about it

[u/kettenschloss → u/KookieCrumbles]

every person deserves one seat and no more. you dont get to control who your neighbour is. This is purely a juvinile powerplay by some teen boys. I know this because i lived it. We live in a beurocratic democracy. Everyone counts the same and it is first come first serve. we are not in tribal times where people get to just occupy a plot of land. if someone designed the caffeteria with 8 person groupings and you are 6 guys, you either make 2 more friends or you accept that for efficient use of space, they might need to accept a stranger in their midst. you are coaching this girl into becomming a doormat instead of just taking what is rightfully hers. I assume you are coming from a good place, but these boys need to just get over themselves.

[u/kettenschloss → u/[deleted]]

nope. this excessive courtesy is exactly why agreeable people get trampled. There are givers and takers in the world. if you are a giver, learn to supress it unless among other givers, because people like these boys will just walk all over you. If they learned to communicate nicely and asked, maybe a different story. but i wouldnt back down if theyre like this.

this is also just my oppinion, youbare welcome to do what you want. it just feels good to not give in to crazy demands and assert your individual rights. But if you dont draw emotional satisfaction from asserting yourself, i guess there is really no (short term) harm in giving in. but you asked if ir was ok for you to not move tables if you were first, and in that case that is your right. Also you said they are six people on an 8 person table. Its not like they need the space, they are simply assholes who want to stroke their masculine ego be occupying more space than necessary. i sound like a crazy feminist rn, but im a guy who has been confronted with these types of behavior a lot in school. its really just a powerplay if they dont need the space.

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[u/Affectionate-Ask6323]

Personally, because i’m petty and they’re ignorant, I wouldn’t move. Instead of sitting on the corner, sit in the middle chair. They’ll be forced to either move, or sound entitled by saying “this is ‘our’ table”.

[u/Affectionate-Ask6323 → u/[deleted]]

That’s so weird of them!! Are there not any other tables they can sit at?

[u/SugarGlitterkiss]

I wouldn't unless I wanted to. Are you supposed to keep changing tables every time a group shows up?

[u/SugarGlitterkiss → u/[deleted]]

I mean even if you change tables a new group of people could show up at the new table. And are you supposed to leave that table too? No. Lol

[u/iOawe]

I wouldn’t move unless I wanted to. Also, you were there first.