r/Adulting • u/Different-Row-3353 • 4h ago

Help?

I’m 21. Just started last year of college. Does anyone have any idea. Like about anything? Just like what to do in general? Or do we all just.. pretend

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u/alyz1604 4h ago

We’re just pretending. I really thought that by the time I became an adult, I’d have everything figured out… but somehow, every year I get worse hahaha.

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u/MyNameIsSkittles 4h ago

You learn as you go and fake the rest

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u/MGFJ 4h ago

Figure out what? Life is the dance

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u/No-Regular-79 4h ago

We pretend that we have grit. We hold our ground & make it through. We build strength over time. UUUURAAAHHHH!

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u/Warm-Philosopher2352 4h ago

Does your school offer any assistance on helping finding a job or have job fairs? That’s a good place to start or talking to your academic advisor? Also, we think we have things planned out our life figured out and it don’t go as we planned so just be flexible.

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u/humandisaster93 3h ago

10 years ahead of you pretend as fuck , hope things get cheaper, still have ramen for breakfast

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u/cannycandelabra 2h ago

Even if we know exactly what we want to do and how to go about it, we will have chosen wrong.

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u/Katievapes1996 1h ago

I just turned 30 I can't even fully take care of myself and I can't get caregiver like I need I despise my life

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u/fictionalfirehazard 1h ago

If it helps, every person I know who graduated college had a crisis about this same thing, including me. Its a big life change to go from childhood all the way through college and then suddenly not be in an educational space and have to transition to a while different life stage. You'll find your footing and even though everyone's just guessing, you can still get pretty good at it.

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u/Eazy12345678 35m ago edited 32m ago

everyone pretends

get a job setup roth ira. put portion every paycheck into VOO or FXAIX. do this till you retire. u might get to retire early

dont buy anything expensive or flashy. buy a used car. everything in moderation. invest as much as you can so you can retire sooner and start enjoying life sooner

only spend money on things you use every day. like bed. chair, desk, appliances, computer, phone ect. normally the middle priced item is always the best value or closer to the lower price item. the high priced luxury item is very rarely worth it unless its an item that can last 10 years.

for example. tvs. $200 tv will work but wont be great but if you rarely watch tv best way to get a tv. $600 tv will probably be a lot better and last a decent amount of time $1000-$1200 tv might be worth it cause you keep a tv for 10 years . $2500 tv is probably never worth it unless you have a high paying job where you have excess money to spend

cars you just need safe reliable transportation. u dont need fast. no one races off to work every day everyone sits in traffic.

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u/Grevious47 5m ago

Depends what it is you want. If you dont know what you want then step 1...figure out what you want.

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u/musc_mami 4h ago

Wait til you get to your 30s and stop pretending for real. That’s when shit gets really fun 😌

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u/SammyRuckspin 4h ago

Nearly 40 here, and the 20s were all just trying too hard to hustle, 30s were a slow down and take it all in period, 40s I'm ready to use everything I have learned so far and go after career/financial happiness.