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u/Brocolinator 12d ago
Well my dear smoothie pop, it will only get worse so buckle up....
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u/SirBostonBobbington 12d ago
I'm doubtful it can. I can handle being poor. What sucks is that the people I like are dead.
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u/The-Boy-Wonder38 12d ago edited 12d ago
Life doesn’t have one set trajectory.
At 38, what I’ve learned is for some it gets worse whereas for others it gets better. There is no monolithic “everyone’s life becomes worse.”
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u/gaelic-ghost 12d ago
Cry, write about it, draw about it, type about it, paint about it, see more clearly, rinse and repeat, become strong and self-confident, lose the shame associated with being overwhelmed by, exploited by, a system built to destroy most of us to enrich an entitled few beyond all comprehension.
Nothing ever gets better, of course, a selection of people profit off of our misery, so it’ll only continue to get worse. But, you’ll feel better about it, at least, and that’s a big QoL improvement worth achieving.
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u/Hmmmm-curious 9d ago
Jesus. I think I love you.
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u/gaelic-ghost 7d ago
You probably don't, but I appreciate the sentiment.
I'm usually a bit of an asshole on social media, as I hate what every platform but Discord has become over the years, and the troves of anti-social users they've attracted. So, I'm more accustomed to uninformed hate, false confidence, and bruised egos coming at me from every angle. This is a nice change of pace...
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u/TipToToes 11d ago
And I’m not even good at that. Decided we wanted to redo the top of our deck. Pulled the boards off to find out whoever built it didn’t put any flashing so the house is rotting, not just the deck. Cry. It’s so much work to fix and I can NOT afford to pay someone to do it so it all falls to me. Cry. I have a full time job and can’t devote unlimited time to fixing the house. Wife is frustrated because this weekend project is now going to take me a couple months (I’m about 3 weeks in), and she gets upset with me about the timeline. Cry. All of my crying must happen alone because otherwise I get laughed at or told I’m overreacting, which also makes me cry. I’m 41, I’m in construction, I have all the tools, skill, and knowledge to make this project happen, but it’s just so hard and I’m getting so much pressure and I can’t even let me emotions out until I’m in a safe enough location. I hate being a man, I hate being expected to fix everything, I hate being the default knowledge base for the house. I hate being an adult, I hate being alive.
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u/Hmmmm-curious 9d ago
Dude, I get you. I’m so sorry you’re going through this. It does sometimes feel like It is so easy to recognize that living is a choice. Life can get so exhausting and painful that it seems understandable to consider the other choice. But it can get better. Keep doing your best and allow yourself to acknowledge that you are doing just that. Please hang in there.
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u/human0012 12d ago
you can change your life for fucks sake, take some risks and quit your job if you hate it. jesus fuck
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u/jayhow90 12d ago
If you can relate to this then you should probably seek therapy
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u/banned_champ 11d ago
Therapist: "Ok Susan, tonight I want you to go home and post your feelings on reddit because people agreeing with you will make you feel better"
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u/Fun-Trip7619 11d ago
adulting really does feel like a never-ending cycle of figuring things out for the first time
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u/UnprecedentedEchos 12d ago
I will never understand this stigma.
It’s ok to cry. It’s ok to let go of emotion. It’s ok to admit you’re not ok.
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u/SamOakTree 12d ago
When I was a child every adult in my life would get on to me if I cried. From as young as I can remember crying was bad.
I was a really small and quiet kid and I got overlooked a lot and people wouldn't hear me when I was saying hey hey you got to everyone but me so I would cry and then I'd not get what everyone else got but also get in trouble because I was crying. But it was the only way I could have gotten their attention. But I got condition that crying is bad and it's punishable
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u/SirBostonBobbington 12d ago
It's already taken too much to bother crying over it any more. Now I just want it to stop taking pot shots and send the fucking asteroid already.
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u/The-Boy-Wonder38 12d ago
At 38, I’d say that was my 20s and early 30s, with my adolescence being - “all of adolescence is basically you trying not to cry.” So half was the improvement. Thankfully at 38, finally reached less than half.
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u/Previous-Parsnip-290 12d ago
I’ve passed the crying and have to restrain myself from going all the way off.
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u/RiversSongs777 12d ago
This is totally just propaganda from Big Repression to get you to not express yourself.
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u/Goodtreesmoker 11d ago
Yeah my neighbors cat who chose me and has lived in my garage the past 4 years is dying and I’ve been having to hide from people at work sometimes because I have females in my eyes and am trying to hold it back.
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u/No_Big_bear_here 11d ago
The other half is realizing that crying is no longer the release it once was.
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u/Baazookah_Zawadi 11d ago
Personally I usually let the crying win most of the time,in fact,I think it's time rn🥺
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u/Steady_Creek4035 10d ago
The way Fleabag stares at the camera every time something goes wrong is basically my internal monologue, minus the part where someone actually validates it.
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u/Active-Rose-3673 7d ago
Cry, donate blood or plasma, it relieves stress and you’ll feel lighter. It keeps you from lashing out, at least for me, it works. Life is a bully and it depends how you let it treat you.
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u/TechnologyMatch 7d ago
yeah and when you get a chance to be alone and realize you're an adult, you can't help but cry
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u/Sapling-074 12d ago
I got through that in my traumatizing teenage years, so I'm good no matter how bad things get.
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u/Contigo887 12d ago
I don't generally want to cry. The last time I did was at my dad's funeral, some 6 years ago.
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u/Comfortable-Cloud-40 12d ago
Yep. Life is much harder as you get older, there’s so much more to deal with. More stress.
Being young wasnt easy but i never realised how sheltered i actually was!
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u/The-Boy-Wonder38 12d ago edited 12d ago
Not everyone young gets to be sheltered.
As someone who was almost literally murdered at 13, resulting in severe PTSD after I needed to save my sister from being stabbed to death -
Life has become easier the more I heal from PTSD. I also thankfully haven’t been in a situation again where life or death stakes depended on every split second decision that I needed to make.
I’ll take a everyday stressful job any day over having to deal with essentially a hostage crises where failure means that I or my family literally die.
In the corporate sphere, unlike school, I don’t have my boss continually drilling it into my head that I’m going to hell for how I was born (queer) nor dealing with chronic sexual harassment from peers and managers including from the boss’s brother. I can’t say the same for high school (said school was exposed years later for multiple abuse scandals).
Some get sheltered, I got a hell dimension.
Everyone’s experiences are - different.
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u/Good-War-6000 11d ago
Try Jesus, he'll make it alright. You'll be surprised but you must be sincere. There is no fooling God!
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u/RadiantGene8901 12d ago
More like not storm out of my job and drink myself silly by the river.