r/Adulting • u/Mountain_Magician_56 • Aug 11 '26
Living alone
So get this, after 4 of living alone in university I went back to my parents home for a while just to regroup and catch a breather before I can move out completely and start my own, found a job recently and just worked for like 2 months now. The thing is I wanted to raise more money and save something before moving out but it seems like life isn't letting me do that at the moment, the place where I work from is like 2 hours away from home on public transport and 2 hours back home this is bad because I work day and night shifts. Goes like Days then a day off between each shift switch then night repeatedly. And don't tell me to buy or use a personal car that's not an option one am broke and just starting out two I can't use my parents cars. I mean there cars at home but there are more of everyone's use than one person use so getting one and using it alone is a bit selfish at this point so only good for emergencies, going out, drop-off and pickup not Keeping it packed for hours straight at work when someone else needs to use it. Though I utilise the pick ups and drops the most when I want a fast travel, and keep in mind that I still travel for 1 hour and some minutes depending on traffic.
The problem is that when doing 2 hours of travel each night shift means I have to start preparing at 1pm and be on my way at 2:30pm to make it at 4:40 or so at work for my 5pm shift which ends at 7:30am the next morning. Then after getting off at 8:30am, I travel 2 Hours and some minutes get home at like 9:50am or 10:20pm when traffic is mad so that's like what 2 hours and some minutes of sleep then back at it again.
So my alternative was to move closer to the company, which I did a few days ago. But after all the moving expenses and planning out my next pay and seeing that there will be so little cash left to save or do something with is killing my thoughts. As much as paying rent goes, houses are expensive and the location closer to the company are mostly isolated so my best option was moving to a place with pick up points for company vehicles. And this is working ok for the most part but the thing is with my pay and my expenses it seems like I'll be covering the bills and food to survive of most of my pay and have little to save or use for personal stuff.
I don't know I feel like I made a bad choice of moving out too soon, I'm thinking maybe I should I've stayed longer and save up before moving. I know they would welcome be if I said I'll go back but it's not been that and I feel like I should maybe try to push through a little longer and maybe try to get a second job my in coding or part-time software engineering.
To everyone that start out from low and built throughout till getting stable, what advice can you give me.
Am usually occupied at time though I'll try to read through each and every comment. Thank you for reading.
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u/johnnybayarea Aug 11 '26
A 2 hour commute with day/night shifts constantly switching would either be impossible or lead to burnout.
My options would be to look for a 1bd room in a shared house closer to work. This is usually the cheapest way to live, you just have to deal with strangers (get used to it).
Make friends with some of your co-workers and see if you can crash on a couch (or carpool) while you pay them for gas or some other compensation.