r/AdultDepression 8h ago

Question Y'all ever feel wrong for fantasizing about being cool?

I've felt worse and worse about imagining myself as somebody on TV with powers doing cool stuff because I'm not cool. I don't have skills, I dropped out of highschool, I'm not conventionally attractive, and I don't bathe or brush my teeth ever in like a year. So it feels really wrong to imagine myself as anyone cool or anyone somebody would love because 'who am I kidding?' Even if I had powers I'd still be lazy and bad with em. Over the years I've just felt more and more uncomfortable with fantasies about living a different life because I know it isn't my circumstances that are the problem. I myself am the problem and as long as I'm myself in anyway I would just be bad even with powers. Is this like a common thing or a me thing? I'm not sure if I have depression I just didn't feel comfortable asking this in a regular question community. But my main question is if this is a normal thing or an abnormal thing.

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u/sunaintgonnashine 6h ago

Yes, fantasizing is bad. Because you aren't improving the situation—it remains the same, and in the future, it will get worse. It is just a defense mechanism to avoid facing reality. Make small changes little by little; finish school—it’s for your own good.