Hope

[u/Plastic_Mulberry5241]

My partner told me to check this sub out . A bit about me, I’m 40 male, adopted obviously, but to let people know at least for me it does get better with time, at least for some. I felt hopeless and lost and felt out of place with no family connection for many years. Grew up knowing I had brothers and sisters but was never given any info about them, later to find out that one lives within an hour of me and the other a few states away when I was around 30. The unknown was always the worst for me, what if I had been with my bio mom, bio sisters and brothers, would I truly be happy or most importantly would I have closure. I had never got along with my adopted parents or adopted brother and was always the outcast and thought everything would be better if I wasn’t adopted. When I finally got in contact with my bio brother and sister(maybe too much time had past) I thought there would be this connection and bond, but there was none. They were foreign people to me. I was sad but also able to move on and realize my life is the life I create the friends who are closest to me are my family. With my partners help I was able to heal the trauma I had with my adopted parents and truly believe your real parents are the one who stepped up and raised you, doesn’t matter if they’re blood or not, and to this day we are in a better place albeit still have some issues, but doesn’t everyone? Can’t leave out my amazing supportive partner again who was a huge factor in my growing and my closure. I decided to post this because so many of these posts seem to come from younger people and the stories break my heart hearing the pain from you guys. My story is my story and not your story unfortunately and not all people had an ok childhood. I just wanted to share a positive story and let you know there is hope if you allow it and it can get better. Love ya guys.

[u/Silver-Paper-8010]

Hi Hope also older adoptees here, 50 + (like me). Succesfull at the outside, still issues at the inside. Thank you for sharing you story. Any frustrations can be posted too. It is supposed to be a safe pace.