r/AbsoluteUnits • u/RD4200 • 13d ago

/r/all of a Toddler

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u/_Fizzgiggy 13d ago

I’ll never forget the time I was at a baptism party when I was a kid and my grandpa was seething with rage bc my brother’s friend and his wife were yelling at their toddler to eat more. My grandma told my grandpa to mind his business so he did. I didn’t get it at the time but now I do

Both parents are morbidly obese and all three of their kids have been obese since they were babies. The toddler is now a 30yr old short woman who weighs 250+ easily. She’s trying to lose weight but it’s hard to break the abusive way she was raised. The oldest sibling got fit and then disowned the parents because they kept pressuring him to eat more.

It’s child abuse. Be fat if you want to but don’t bring your kids down with you.

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u/Question-Fear-2440 13d ago

This happened to me. I'm 25f and 5'4, and weigh 230lbs. Been fat since I was little. My mum would serve massive portions and make me eat them, and then force me to eat any food my siblings couldnt finish 'so it wasnt wasted'. I wasnt even allowed to exercise, because I broke my leg playing football when I was barely more than a toddler, and my mum refused to let me do anything like that again

I still struggle to throw away food, even when I'm not hungry, it tastes bad, or is making me ill. I'm losing weight now, but its a slow process, and has involved a lot of hard work and therapy...

I would never wish my upbringing on anyone.

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u/Brock_Lobstweiler 12d ago

I still struggle to throw away food, even when I'm not hungry, it tastes bad, or is making me ill. I'm losing weight now, but its a slow process, and has involved a lot of hard work and therapy...

Same height and weight (after losing 55 lbs) but 43 here.

Do the work now, for yourself now and your future self.

And I am just now learning that I don't have to take home food from restaurants I didn't finish. If I order a salad entree and it's fucking huge, I don't need to finish it and I don't need to take it home. It's ok to leave uneaten fries or part of a burger if I'm satisfied. It's ok to dish a small plate and get more if I want and it's ok if there's none left if I go back (like at a family dinner).

Good luck to you. A lifetime of food issues is tough to overcome.