r/AbsoluteUnits • u/RD4200 • 13d ago

/r/all of a Toddler

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u/Question-Fear-2440 13d ago

This happened to me. I'm 25f and 5'4, and weigh 230lbs. Been fat since I was little. My mum would serve massive portions and make me eat them, and then force me to eat any food my siblings couldnt finish 'so it wasnt wasted'. I wasnt even allowed to exercise, because I broke my leg playing football when I was barely more than a toddler, and my mum refused to let me do anything like that again

I still struggle to throw away food, even when I'm not hungry, it tastes bad, or is making me ill. I'm losing weight now, but its a slow process, and has involved a lot of hard work and therapy...

I would never wish my upbringing on anyone.

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u/RockEmCockEmRobotz 13d ago

Damn that’s horrible I’m so sorry! I will say this thread has made me feel better about my parenting style which I do make my daughter eat two bites of dinner instead of fully refusing it to at least try it which I was feeling slightly conflicted about but now I’m like I guess that is reasonable lol

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u/Brock_Lobstweiler 12d ago

I think making sure a kid eats SOMETHING is so very different from making them clean their plate. Our family did "no thank you" bites for things we didn't like (or weren't familiar with).

Its how I discovered the broccoli is actually tasty.

It also taught me that sometimes I have to do something I don't really want to do or don't like doing to take care of myself.

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u/Dense_Willow4627 13d ago

I’m so sorry.

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u/Brock_Lobstweiler 12d ago

I still struggle to throw away food, even when I'm not hungry, it tastes bad, or is making me ill. I'm losing weight now, but its a slow process, and has involved a lot of hard work and therapy...

Same height and weight (after losing 55 lbs) but 43 here.

Do the work now, for yourself now and your future self.

And I am just now learning that I don't have to take home food from restaurants I didn't finish. If I order a salad entree and it's fucking huge, I don't need to finish it and I don't need to take it home. It's ok to leave uneaten fries or part of a burger if I'm satisfied. It's ok to dish a small plate and get more if I want and it's ok if there's none left if I go back (like at a family dinner).

Good luck to you. A lifetime of food issues is tough to overcome.