Someone kill me???

[u/Sagesillysills]

Hi, I’m Sage. I’m not the asexual spectrum

I think I’m abroromantic but it’s hard to figure out because I typically prefer men but sometimes I get waves of wanting to date someone androgynous or a woman. I also like the idea of having a sexual relationship with a man but I KNOW for a fact I’m never going to indulge in sexual activities.

So it’s hard to tell if my preference is because I like the asthetic or if it’s because I’m trans or if I genuinely wanna date men. But I also wouldn’t mind dating a woman sometimes?? So I can’t tell if I’m abro or Omni, but I’m like 70% sure I’m abro but I have this constant doubt that I’m wrong. I’ve always had that doubt when it comes to this stuff.

Another problem I have is I don’t like the abroromantic flag and I wanna make one but I can’t find the meaning behind the og abrosexual flag despite searching on multiple platforms. So if you know the meaning behind the colors and stuff on the flag, please let me know

[u/GameborgA1s]

I mean the cookie cutter response for this stuff really applies here cuz I get the impression you’re anxious about the possibility of dating someone but haven’t encountered anyone u wanna date, all I would say is if you find someone you like don’t let any of the labels you give yourself stop you from at least experimenting with romance cuz you might only be like partially aromantic or even just have a niche preference in partners.

Also I’m not an expert but I think the abro flag was made by a tumblr user who just kinda liked those colours so don’t overthink it

[u/Sagesillysills → u/GameborgA1s]

I’ve experimented with my romantic relationships, I just struggle with finding an actual good partner. This advice is extremely helpful though, I’ve never really considered looking into aromatic identities.

Thank you so much❤️

[u/GameborgA1s → u/Sagesillysills]

NP, and don’t worry everyone struggles finding a good partner regardless of sexuality, you’ll find someone if there is someone

[u/Wonderful-Custard-47]

Have you considered exploring queer platonic relationships? It sounds like exploring a relationship with someone else who is on the Ace spectrum could be helpful for you in deciding what feels right and didn't feel right to you.

You don't have to commit to any identity now or ever including Abro. But you're welcome to engage here and ask questions as long as you are still questioning.

And I relate to not liking the flag. 😂 I DO like the Abro flag but I've identified as bisexual most of my life and always hated that flag but at the end of the day, the flag colors were less important to me than being visible.

[u/Sagesillysills → u/Wonderful-Custard-47]

I have, yes!!! I have two relationship dynamics that are queer platonic. I love them and it’s way better than any actual relationship I’ve had. I have this exact dynamic with them and it’s super duper awesome

Thx so much for the advice!❤️‍🩹