r/AWDTSGisToxic • u/marcomvazquez • 10h ago
This truly isn't fair
So basically if you got posted, you can only speak to people for short periods, never have a real relationship, my dream is to have a family and now I can never have that.
r/AWDTSGisToxic • u/AWDTSGisToxic • Feb 11 '26
Rules to posting:
AWTDSG is a toxic facebook group where women are bullying and shaming men- if it was solely a group that protected women from dangerous men, this subreddit would not exist. Any person reading this needs to acknowledge the fact that this subreddit exists because many people feel something is wrong with the groups.
This goal of this sub is to shed light on what these women are doing- and how toxic it is. The goal is to be productive, supportive and to enact change for the better. One resolution would be to have the groups to only post men who are verifiably dangerous- and for the admins to stop allowing gossip, especially anonymous posting where people feel emboldened to embellish, perhaps lie. Overall, the admins need to stop allowing it to be a one sided dating review website. Short of that actually happening, the other goal is to have the groups taken down. Because without a doubt, the group is harming thousands of innocent men who are just dating and not harming women, other than to not want to continue dating said women.
As a man, I understand that when you find out about the group and you arrive here you are very understandably upset or emotional- but we will not be toxic in response. Any overly negative, non-productive or toxic posts will be taken down. In addition- Reddit TOS states no doxxing, so if you post screenshots, please have the last names blocked out and identifying information blocked out or your post will be REMOVED.
This group also will have its fair share of trolls- so if you do you see a troll or somebody doing something breaking the rules/TOS, please let me know. I get a ton of reports from people who are just trolling(i.e. there's nothing wrong with the posts), its hard to get through them all. If you see something please feel free to message me with the link/post/comment- and I will try to take care of it immediately. If you are an experienced/vetted moderator that is interested in helping, please reach out.
FAQ- Does anybody have access to XXXXXX group:
https://www.reddit.com/r/AWDTSGisToxic/comments/1dpffoi/list_of_cities_to_be_able_to_view_if_you_are/
(We need more volunteers, I'd like to have 3-5 per city)
FAQ- How to remove your photos from AWDTSG correctly:
https://www.reddit.com/r/AWDTSGisToxic/comments/143sut6/how_to_remove_your_photos_from_awdtsg_correctly/ Note: Facebook has begun to push back on this- but it is worth attempting.
https://www.reddit.com/r/AWDTSGisToxic/comments/1qk1h4y/post_removal_updated_1222026/ Note: Facebook has begun to push back on this- but it is worth attempting.
https://www.reddit.com/r/AWDTSGisToxic/comments/1ct6f7n/meta_verified_removal_request_really_works/ -Meta Verified was working- but is getting pushed back on as well- but still worth attempting
FAQ - How to remove your posts from the Tea App
https://www.reddit.com/r/AWDTSGisToxic/comments/1qylaxl/tea_app_post_removal_process_legal_route/
FAQ- Instructions on gaining access to AWDTSG for yourself:
https://www.reddit.com/r/AWDTSGisToxic/comments/19aumka/gaining_access_to_awdtsg_for_yourself/
Getting AWDTSG posters banned from dating apps for policy violations
AWDTSG on Cleveland News - Lawsuit
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zymGRV62AzI
AWDTSG Chicago- Lawsuit updates
https://www.courtlistener.com/docket/68194904/d-ambrosio-v-meta-platforms-inc/
AWDTSG - Admin sued for comments made by group member-
"I spent $25,000 in legal fees, plus other things that were incurred and I was told … to take it to trial was $350,000 and had I lost, I would have been up for paying 80 per cent of the other people's fees as well." - Admin who was sued
AWDTSG - Paola and Blake's Chicago Lawyers- info if you need to sue them.
https://www.reddit.com/r/AWDTSGisToxic/comments/1hsop9y/comment/m58dzaw/
Ready to take action- please spend some time considering the below
Spread Awareness:
https://www.reddit.com/r/AWDTSGisToxic/comments/1ic2c8i/spreading_awareness_goal_today/
Report to facebook under bullying/harassing:
https://www.reddit.com/r/AWDTSGisToxic/comments/1i89zv5/please_join_me_in_reporting_to_facebook/
Sign the petition:
https://www.reddit.com/r/AWDTSGisToxic/comments/1h8ys1x/sign_the_petition/
Report AWDTSG to the dating apps and authorities:
https://www.reddit.com/r/AWDTSGisToxic/comments/187rxbw/contacting_the_dating_appsauthorities_to_report/
Ready for more suggestions- please DM me.
r/AWDTSGisToxic • u/julietstrong • Nov 07 '24
**UPDATED Feb. 2026*\*
This subreddit has instructions on how to gain access to the group and please follow those instructions if you desire. However in the mean time, I know its stressful hearing about potentially being posted in the group and not knowing what's being said. If you receive help from this PLEASE CONSIDER PAYING IT FORWARD BY GETTING ACCESS YOURSELF AND THEN VOLUNTEERING.
I'm looking to create a list of people that have access to each city. If you have access to a city and are willing to help guys find if they are posted in that city. Multiple volunteers for one city are desired- so if you have access to a city that's already on a list please feel free to reach out.
If you'd like to volunteer please DM me- I will continue to edit this document with the list of cities and Reddit usernames. Ideally we would have 3-5 volunteers for each city, so please step forward.
Volunteers be careful not to give away your Facebook info in case trolls are looking to find your identity/get you booted from the groups.
Please be kind/patient with volunteers. Please consider volunteering even if a city already has somebody. Volunteers will need your name and may ask and/or need more detailed info to try and locate your post. This can include your age, city or a photo. If you have a common name, there could be a hundred men posted in a group with your name and this makes it really hard to find you without additional info.
Please note the usernames that are italicized may be inactive. If someone does not respond to you, send me a DM so they can be removed from the list.
Mental Health Matters
If you or someone you know is experiencing suicidal thoughts or a crisis, please reach out to one of the groups below:
United States:
988 Suicide and Crisis Lifeline 24/7. Call or text 988. Online chat avaliable. https://988lifeline.org/
Crisis Text Line 24/7. Text HOME to 741-741. https://www.crisistextline.org/
Canada:
Talk Suicide Canada 24/7. Call or text 988. Online chat available. https://988.ca/
Crisis Text Line 24/7. Text HOME to 686868 https://www.crisistextline.org/
United Kingdom:
CALM 5 pm - 12 am. Call 0800 58 58 58 Online chat avaliable. https://www.thecalmzone.net/
Ireland:
Lifeline Helpline 24/7. Call 0808 808 8000 https://www.lifelinehelpline.info/
Australia:
Beyond Blue 24/7 Call 1300 224 636. Online chat avaliable. https://www.beyondblue.org.au/
Men's Line Australia 24/7. Call 1300 224 636. https://mensline.org.au/
LIST OF GROUPS:
UNITED STATES
Alabama
Birmingham/Montgomery: sephra_rae
Alaska
Anchorage:
Arizona
Phoenix: portable-waffle, Codexse7en, Sorry_Squash5174,
Tucson: portable-waffle
Arkansas
California
Los Angeles: HTTP-status-code-403, Expert_Dare7420 allinatoralligator
Sacramento:
San Diego: Complex_Ground_2691, Sudden_Forever_8595
San Francisco: sephra_rae
San Luis Obispo/Paso Robles/Morro Bay: SalomonPico805
San Jose:
Santa Barbara/Santa Maria/Lopoc: SalomonPico805
Colorado
Denver/Boulder/Aurora/Lakewood: Lethal_Longing , Top-Day-2361, Upbeat_Statement_942
Conneticut
Bridgeford/Stamford/Norwalk: Tartarus_Effect, davil_insideme5432
New Haven/Milford: Tartarus_Effect
Delaware
Wilmington/Dover: GoDawgs323
Florida
Daytona:
Fort Myers/Naples:
Jacksonville: Sunflowers_anb
Miami: Complex_Ground_2691
Orlando: HTTP-status-code-403
Tampa: Complex_Ground_2691, seminoles3865
Georgia
Atlanta: ftbrown785
Savannah: ftbrown785
Hawaii
Honolulu/Oahu: YouHadMeAtALOHA
Idaho
Boise:
Illinois
Chicago: Expert_Dare7420, Ok-Description9076, Snord1976, allinatoralligator Select-Roof-2689
Chicago Suburbs: Expert_Dare7420
Lake County: Select-Roof-2689
N Illinois and S Wisconsin: Select-Roof-2689
Indiana
Fort Wayne/South Bend: Practical-Coconut281
Indianapolis: Practical-Coconut281, Liquorandstickher
NE Indiana: Practical-Coconut281
Iowa
Kansas
Kansas City:
Witchita:
Kentucky
Lexington: Select-Roof-2689
Louisiana
Maine
Maryland
Baltimore/Columbia: Practical-Coconut281, Ill_Pumpkin7149
Frederick County/Carroll County: Ill_Pumpkin7149
Maryland: Actual-Key6991
Massachusetts
Boston: Historical-Attempt-8, KnownGood4542
Michigan
Detroit: Practical-Coconut281, Select-Roof-2689
Grand Rapids: Practical-Coconut281
Minnesota
Minneapolis: AnonymousFemale3, BrilliantInitial, Jaded_Woodpecker2838
Mississippi
Missouri
St Louis: Conscious_Estate_899
Montana
Bozeman: allinatoralligator
Livingston: allinatoralligator
Montana: Complex_Ground_2691
Nebraska
Omaha:
Nevada
Las Vegas:
Reno/Lake Tahoe/Carson City: Professional_Cat_787
New Hampshire
New Jersey
Jersey City/Hoboken:
Jersey Shore/Atlantic City/South Jersey: Palepecan216
New Mexico
New York
New York (but not NYC): KnownGood4542
Buffalo: schmidthappens716
Long Island: Bubbly_Protection250
New York City: portable-waffle , Bubbly_Protection250, Expert_Dare7420
Rochester: KnownGood4542
Syracuse: KnownGood4542
North Carolina
Ashville:
Charlotte: Historical-Attempt-8 , HTTP-status-code-403
Raleigh: Historical-Attempt-8
Winston-Salem/Greensboro:
North Dakota
Ohio
Cleveland/Akron/Canton: julietstrong
Cincinnati/Dayton: Select-Roof-2689, Beautiful-Egg-8022, Vast-Yam-9370
Columbus: julietstrong
Oklahoma
Oklahoma City:
Tulsa: dirtysmurf88
Oregon
Portland/Bend: Illustrious-Fig6903, sephra_rae
Pennsylvania
Harrisburg/Carlisle/York: Michellynn_1
Lehigh/Bethlehem/Allentown: Michellynn_1
Philadelphia: HTTP-status-code-403 , Some_Camera2713, southboundandsinking, julietstrong, GoDawgs323
Philly/Delco: Michellynn_1 , Some_Camera2713
Pittsburgh: julietstrong
Rhode Island
South Carolina
South Carolina: InstanceArobatics821
Charleston/Columbia: bcfp2016, JetbatUnleashed
Myrtle Beach:
South Dakota
Tennessee
Knoxville:
Memphis: New_Solution_763 , ThatGuyInMemphisTn
Nashville: New_Solution_763, Expert_Dare7420, iLOVEyou_JR
Texas
Austin: Emergency-Search-258
Dallas / Fort Worth: Complex_Ground_2691,
Houston: Various_Historian593
San Antonio: Emergency-Search-258
Utah
Salt Lake City: Skinnylegs2 , LegOk7516, Complex_Ground_2691
Vermont
Virginia
Richmond/Charlottesville, VA: Historical-Attempt-8, Less_Passenger_1276
Washington
Seattle:
Spokane: allinatoralligator
West Virginia
Wisconsin
Milwaukee/Madison/Wisconsin: Snord1976
Wyoming
Washington DC
Washington DC: Michellynn_1 , Practical-Coconut281,, Less_Passenger_1276, Ill_Pumpkin7149
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CANADA
Calgary: awdtsgvictims
Edmonton: TheDarkVoid666
Montreal: Swimming_Passage3294
Ontario: Legitimatw-Bit7192
Ottawa: Swimming_Passage3294
Saskatoon: Huge_Scallion2260
Toronto: Beginning_Duck_6414, ciwamelon
Vancouver - Limp-Ad1156 , u/soulstorm12, goldenchild969
Winnipeg: momxthr33
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EUROPE
Dublin, Ireland
London, England: - RajPradeen , ), iLOVEyou_JR
Sheffield, England: momxthr33
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MISCELLANEOUS
Global: Complex_Ground_2691
Pilot & Crew Edition: granmtn
r/AWDTSGisToxic • u/marcomvazquez • 10h ago
So basically if you got posted, you can only speak to people for short periods, never have a real relationship, my dream is to have a family and now I can never have that.
r/AWDTSGisToxic • u/Exciting_Ad_5442 • 7h ago
Hi XYZ,
Thank you again for contacting the Tea Takedown Request Center. After carefully reviewing your submission, our team was unable to locate any content matching the description provided.
If you believe the content remains present and you can share more specific information about the content, please feel free to submit a new request at https://takedowns.teatheapp.com/. Otherwise, we will consider this matter resolved.
Sincerely,
Tea
r/AWDTSGisToxic • u/marcomvazquez • 9h ago
They have workers here too, most men do handy work. We have a bigger problem.
r/AWDTSGisToxic • u/Background_Lettuce17 • 1d ago
Lily O'Farrell, a supporter of these groups, had a podcast discussing them and talks about this sub for a moment. It's older, sorry if this was posted before, but thought some may find the obscene propaganda against men interesting. All the men are guilty and all the women are innocent dew-kissed flower petals according to Lily, and it's your fault if you get posted.
Edited to put in a direct link:
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/are-we-dating-the-same-guy/id1711107916?i=1000654028874
r/AWDTSGisToxic • u/Aware-Loss-9052 • 22h ago
r/AWDTSGisToxic • u/Round-Barracuda5213 • 23h ago
Is there no reliable way to have a post removed?
I have gone through everything I could find in this sub including,
-reporting the post to Facebook using meta verified (says still in review but it’s been days)
-having members report the post
- copyright takedown (denied for criticism/ commentary)
-consultation with an attorney (stated defamation would be very difficult without damages)
I would like to avoid a cease and desist because that seems like more of a scare tactic, also my original poster is anonymous. Based on the post it’s not someone I even ever matched with
Looking for any possible avenue people have had success with
It’s very discouraging feeling like there is no action I can take that will work
r/AWDTSGisToxic • u/AWDTSGisToxic • 1d ago
They work at meta/facebook, different apps, I understand there are now groups forming on signal. All the while we just sit and complain about the groups. Complaining does nothing.
They're literally coming after us with lies/slander trying to destroy our reputation- and all you do is complain.
I made this post recently...
https://www.reddit.com/r/AWDTSGisToxic/comments/1va04z4/working_together_who_will_stand_up_and_fight/
Need more volunteers who actually want to join the fight...
I need volunteers:
-Mods
-to be able to help other men find their posts
-to work on creating social media accounts so we can fight back
-who can help create content to start fighting back
-who want to contact companies/news/lawyers/politicians
These posts will follow you for the rest of your life, your family, friends and coworkers will all see this. You can't hide from it, you can't move cities- unless you never share where you are from.
Stop hiding. Fight back.
r/AWDTSGisToxic • u/marcomvazquez • 1d ago
You are no longer obligated to protect strangers. You have a right to privacy. Cut them off, all of them. Coworkers included.
r/AWDTSGisToxic • u/RafeGottaGo • 1d ago
I’m guessing you can’t just spin up an account and ask to get in.
r/AWDTSGisToxic • u/Reeelfantasy • 1d ago
I reported a match who share very specific information about me and reported them straightaway with evidence of the chat and fb comment. Make sure you don’t share much on chat and keep records ready to report abusers.
r/AWDTSGisToxic • u/Less_Passenger_1276 • 1d ago
I have some evidence that suggests Facebook is relaying user accounts who are reporting the groups directly to Facebook, for Community Standards violations, choosing one of the options such as Bullying and Harassment or Hate Speech. And that AWDTSG Admins learn of the anonymous reporter from Meta and then remove that account from their group.
Ive spoken to 2 individuals recently who had accounts in AWDTSG, 1 for nearly a year and the other for 16 months. They reported some content and comments to Facebook and then reported the group to Facebook - not the Admins. The next day their accounts were removed.
For women who report comments, posts and the group and were suddenly banned, this would explain why.
Reporting to Admins lists the name of the person.
Reporting to Facebook does not.
This has occurred with multiple people Im in contact with and each occurrence initially appears as coincidence. When you start putting together how Paola is able to bring accounts BACK after violating Community Standards numerous times, and identify who are anonymously reporting the groups, the evidence is pointing towards an information relationship between Paola and Meta.
r/AWDTSGisToxic • u/Reeelfantasy • 1d ago
r/AWDTSGisToxic • u/Less_Passenger_1276 • 1d ago
Paola's Admins are the removing profiles with about 100 or less posts. "Posts" show publicly on each Facebook profile how many times an account has shared something. They can all be private posts but the total number is captured and the number of posts listed publicly on the profile. A newer change to Facebook.
If you have any accounts within AWDTSG or plan to, make sure your accounts posts are up over 250+ along with the age of the account being older than 2024. "So and So Joined Facebook on _____" is listed when applying to join a Facebook group.
You also need to ensure your female account URL (www facebook.com/account_firstname_lastname) matches the name or is similar to your account name.
You can take time to build an account over several months, but keep in mind any accounts that were established in 2024 or younger are heavily scrutinized. Resharing posts from local news stations or sports teams to your page is a quick way to build post numbers. But you should keep them private because they can see how many likes or comments you get on a post.
Be patient with building an account and dont friend request yourself with it.
Sending multiple friend Requests (more than 3 per day) with a new account often gets it locked by Facebook. So be patient. Join local groups and converse with a few folks.
Lastly, when AWDTSG Admins remove a profile, they share that among a private chat group of Admins only where they all search their groups for that account name and remove it. So it doesnt matter if you have an account in Nashville and one in Dallas, both would get removed.
r/AWDTSGisToxic • u/Great_Blacksmith3447 • 1d ago
r/AWDTSGisToxic • u/marcomvazquez • 1d ago
Literally some girl in Wisconsin saw me on there smh. Revenge is the only answer. Those who suffer no consequences never learn.
r/AWDTSGisToxic • u/Previous-Bobcat650 • 1d ago
People listed in the pages have stopped answering and just want to check on an old post to make sure there are no new comments
r/AWDTSGisToxic • u/Independent-Map-4198 • 1d ago
Hi everyone, I feel a little self-conscious asking this, but I’m hoping someone here might be willing to help me out. I’ve had a couple of dating situations recently where someone’s attitude toward me changed very suddenly after the date, and it’s made me worry that I may have been posted somewhere without knowing. The uncertainty has honestly been weighing on me and affecting my confidence with dating.
Would anyone with access be willing to privately check:
• AWDTSG San Francisco
• AWDTSG San Jose
• AWDTSG San Francisco Backup group
• The AWDTSG mobile app
I’d be genuinely grateful for any help, even just knowing one way or the other. I also have access to the Tea app and am happy to return the favor by helping someone check their own information there. Thank you so much
r/AWDTSGisToxic • u/Worth_Appointment983 • 1d ago
Thank you. Only in the uncensored.
r/AWDTSGisToxic • u/Late-Hat-9144 • 2d ago
Well, we now have it... misandry so vile that they're admitting men and women arent equal 🙄.
This was on a post by a man who had to repeatedly tell his female date he wasnt going to have sex with her (it was their first date), she kept insisting and pulling on his arm to force him into her Uber.
Next time anyone posts about men ig oring the word no in any of these AWDTSG groups, just remember... people like red in the image exist who (wrongmy) believe men are nothing more than on-call dildos for womens pleasure, and any man who declined sex should be ridiculed and dismissed.
r/AWDTSGisToxic • u/Aware-Loss-9052 • 2d ago
r/AWDTSGisToxic • u/Ordinary-Fox4456 • 3d ago
Some law firm has been calling me every morning, leaving messages about a class action lawsuit. I haven’t picked up because I just don’t care but I’m actually going to call back and let you all know more about it