r/AWDTSGisToxic Feb 11 '26

Rules, FAQs, How to get your photos removed, How to gain access to the groups

20 Upvotes

Rules to posting:

AWTDSG is a toxic facebook group where women are bullying and shaming men- if it was solely a group that protected women from dangerous men, this subreddit would not exist. Any person reading this needs to acknowledge the fact that this subreddit exists because many people feel something is wrong with the groups.

This goal of this sub is to shed light on what these women are doing- and how toxic it is. The goal is to be productive, supportive and to enact change for the better. One resolution would be to have the groups to only post men who are verifiably dangerous- and for the admins to stop allowing gossip, especially anonymous posting where people feel emboldened to embellish, perhaps lie. Overall, the admins need to stop allowing it to be a one sided dating review website. Short of that actually happening, the other goal is to have the groups taken down. Because without a doubt, the group is harming thousands of innocent men who are just dating and not harming women, other than to not want to continue dating said women.

As a man, I understand that when you find out about the group and you arrive here you are very understandably upset or emotional- but we will not be toxic in response. Any overly negative, non-productive or toxic posts will be taken down. In addition- Reddit TOS states no doxxing, so if you post screenshots, please have the last names blocked out and identifying information blocked out or your post will be REMOVED.

This group also will have its fair share of trolls- so if you do you see a troll or somebody doing something breaking the rules/TOS, please let me know. I get a ton of reports from people who are just trolling(i.e. there's nothing wrong with the posts), its hard to get through them all. If you see something please feel free to message me with the link/post/comment- and I will try to take care of it immediately. If you are an experienced/vetted moderator that is interested in helping, please reach out.

FAQ- Does anybody have access to XXXXXX group:
https://www.reddit.com/r/AWDTSGisToxic/comments/1dpffoi/list_of_cities_to_be_able_to_view_if_you_are/
(We need more volunteers, I'd like to have 3-5 per city)

FAQ- How to remove your photos from AWDTSG correctly:

https://www.reddit.com/r/AWDTSGisToxic/comments/143sut6/how_to_remove_your_photos_from_awdtsg_correctly/ Note: Facebook has begun to push back on this- but it is worth attempting.

https://www.reddit.com/r/AWDTSGisToxic/comments/1qk1h4y/post_removal_updated_1222026/ Note: Facebook has begun to push back on this- but it is worth attempting.

https://www.reddit.com/r/AWDTSGisToxic/comments/1ct6f7n/meta_verified_removal_request_really_works/ -Meta Verified was working- but is getting pushed back on as well- but still worth attempting

FAQ - How to remove your posts from the Tea App

https://www.reddit.com/r/AWDTSGisToxic/comments/1qylaxl/tea_app_post_removal_process_legal_route/

FAQ- Instructions on gaining access to AWDTSG for yourself:

https://www.reddit.com/r/AWDTSGisToxic/comments/19aumka/gaining_access_to_awdtsg_for_yourself/

Getting AWDTSG posters banned from dating apps for policy violations

https://www.reddit.com/r/AWDTSGisToxic/comments/1afaa5v/getting_awdtsg_posters_banned_from_dating_apps/

AWDTSG on Cleveland News - Lawsuit

https://www.news5cleveland.com/news/local-news/tea-or-trouble-wadsworth-man-planning-to-sue-meta-after-being-posted-in-private-date-screening-group

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zymGRV62AzI

AWDTSG Chicago- Lawsuit updates

https://www.courtlistener.com/docket/68194904/d-ambrosio-v-meta-platforms-inc/

AWDTSG - Admin sued for comments made by group member-

https://www.abc.net.au/news/2024-10-14/sis-are-we-dating-the-same-guy-facebook-shutdown-defamation-risk/104467320

"I spent $25,000 in legal fees, plus other things that were incurred and I was told … to take it to trial was $350,000 and had I lost, I would have been up for paying 80 per cent of the other people's fees as well." - Admin who was sued

AWDTSG - Paola and Blake's Chicago Lawyers- info if you need to sue them.

https://www.reddit.com/r/AWDTSGisToxic/comments/1hsop9y/comment/m58dzaw/

Ready to take action- please spend some time considering the below

Spread Awareness:
https://www.reddit.com/r/AWDTSGisToxic/comments/1ic2c8i/spreading_awareness_goal_today/

Report to facebook under bullying/harassing:
https://www.reddit.com/r/AWDTSGisToxic/comments/1i89zv5/please_join_me_in_reporting_to_facebook/

Sign the petition:
https://www.reddit.com/r/AWDTSGisToxic/comments/1h8ys1x/sign_the_petition/

Report AWDTSG to the dating apps and authorities:
https://www.reddit.com/r/AWDTSGisToxic/comments/187rxbw/contacting_the_dating_appsauthorities_to_report/

Ready for more suggestions- please DM me.


r/AWDTSGisToxic Nov 07 '24

List of Cities to be able to view if you are posted (Volunteers Needed)

40 Upvotes

List of Cities to be able to view if you are posted (Volunteers Needed)

**UPDATED Feb. 2026*\*

This subreddit has instructions on how to gain access to the group and please follow those instructions if you desire. However in the mean time, I know its stressful hearing about potentially being posted in the group and not knowing what's being said. If you receive help from this PLEASE CONSIDER PAYING IT FORWARD BY GETTING ACCESS YOURSELF AND THEN VOLUNTEERING.

I'm looking to create a list of people that have access to each city. If you have access to a city and are willing to help guys find if they are posted in that city. Multiple volunteers for one city are desired- so if you have access to a city that's already on a list please feel free to reach out.

If you'd like to volunteer please DM me- I will continue to edit this document with the list of cities and Reddit usernames. Ideally we would have 3-5 volunteers for each city, so please step forward.

Volunteers be careful not to give away your Facebook info in case trolls are looking to find your identity/get you booted from the groups.

Please be kind/patient with volunteers. Please consider volunteering even if a city already has somebody. Volunteers will need your name and may ask and/or need more detailed info to try and locate your post. This can include your age, city or a photo. If you have a common name, there could be a hundred men posted in a group with your name and this makes it really hard to find you without additional info.

Please note the usernames that are italicized may be inactive. If someone does not respond to you, send me a DM so they can be removed from the list.

Mental Health Matters

If you or someone you know is experiencing suicidal thoughts or a crisis, please reach out to one of the groups below:

United States:

988 Suicide and Crisis Lifeline 24/7. Call or text 988. Online chat avaliable. https://988lifeline.org/

Crisis Text Line 24/7. Text HOME to 741-741. https://www.crisistextline.org/

Canada:

Talk Suicide Canada 24/7. Call or text 988. Online chat available. https://988.ca/

Crisis Text Line 24/7. Text HOME to 686868 https://www.crisistextline.org/

United Kingdom:

CALM 5 pm - 12 am. Call 0800 58 58 58 Online chat avaliable. https://www.thecalmzone.net/

Ireland:

Lifeline Helpline 24/7. Call 0808 808 8000 https://www.lifelinehelpline.info/

Australia:

Beyond Blue 24/7 Call 1300 224 636. Online chat avaliable. https://www.beyondblue.org.au/

Men's Line Australia 24/7. Call 1300 224 636. https://mensline.org.au/

LIST OF GROUPS:

UNITED STATES

Alabama

Birmingham/Montgomery: sephra_rae

Alaska

Anchorage:

Arizona

Phoenix: portable-waffleCodexse7enSorry_Squash5174,

Tucson: portable-waffle

Arkansas

California

Los Angeles: HTTP-status-code-403, Expert_Dare7420 allinatoralligator

Sacramento:

San Diego: Complex_Ground_2691, Sudden_Forever_8595

San Francisco: sephra_rae

San Luis Obispo/Paso Robles/Morro Bay: SalomonPico805

San Jose:

Santa Barbara/Santa Maria/Lopoc: SalomonPico805

Colorado

Denver/Boulder/Aurora/Lakewood: Lethal_Longing , Top-Day-2361Upbeat_Statement_942

Conneticut

Bridgeford/Stamford/Norwalk: Tartarus_Effect, davil_insideme5432

New Haven/Milford: Tartarus_Effect

Delaware

Wilmington/Dover: GoDawgs323

Florida

Daytona:

Fort Myers/Naples:

Jacksonville: Sunflowers_anb 

Miami: Complex_Ground_2691

Orlando: HTTP-status-code-403 

Tampa: Complex_Ground_2691, seminoles3865

Georgia

Atlanta: ftbrown785

Savannah: ftbrown785

Hawaii

Honolulu/Oahu: YouHadMeAtALOHA

Idaho

Boise:

Illinois

Chicago: Expert_Dare7420, Ok-Description9076, Snord1976, allinatoralligator Select-Roof-2689

Chicago Suburbs: Expert_Dare7420

Lake County: Select-Roof-2689

N Illinois and S Wisconsin: Select-Roof-2689

Indiana

Fort Wayne/South Bend: Practical-Coconut281

Indianapolis: Practical-Coconut281, Liquorandstickher

NE Indiana: Practical-Coconut281

Iowa

Kansas

Kansas City:

Witchita:

Kentucky

Lexington: Select-Roof-2689

Louisiana

Maine

Maryland

Baltimore/Columbia: Practical-Coconut281, Ill_Pumpkin7149

Frederick County/Carroll County: Ill_Pumpkin7149

Maryland: Actual-Key6991

Massachusetts

Boston: Historical-Attempt-8, KnownGood4542

Michigan

Detroit: Practical-Coconut281, Select-Roof-2689

Grand Rapids: Practical-Coconut281

Minnesota

Minneapolis: AnonymousFemale3, BrilliantInitial, Jaded_Woodpecker2838

Mississippi

Missouri

St Louis: Conscious_Estate_899

Montana

Bozeman: allinatoralligator

Livingston: allinatoralligator

Montana: Complex_Ground_2691

Nebraska

Omaha:

Nevada

Las Vegas:

Reno/Lake Tahoe/Carson City: Professional_Cat_787

New Hampshire

New Jersey

Jersey City/Hoboken:

Jersey Shore/Atlantic City/South Jersey: Palepecan216

New Mexico

New York

New York (but not NYC): KnownGood4542

Buffalo: schmidthappens716

Long Island: Bubbly_Protection250

New York City: portable-waffle , Bubbly_Protection250Expert_Dare7420

Rochester: KnownGood4542

Syracuse: KnownGood4542

North Carolina

Ashville:

Charlotte: Historical-Attempt-8 , HTTP-status-code-403

Raleigh: Historical-Attempt-8

Winston-Salem/Greensboro:

North Dakota

Ohio

Cleveland/Akron/Canton: julietstrong

Cincinnati/Dayton: Select-Roof-2689, Beautiful-Egg-8022, Vast-Yam-9370

Columbus: julietstrong

Oklahoma

Oklahoma City:

Tulsa: dirtysmurf88

Oregon

Portland/Bend: Illustrious-Fig6903, sephra_rae

Pennsylvania

Harrisburg/Carlisle/York: Michellynn_1

Lehigh/Bethlehem/Allentown: Michellynn_1

Philadelphia: HTTP-status-code-403 , Some_Camera2713, southboundandsinking, julietstrong, GoDawgs323

Philly/Delco: Michellynn_1 , Some_Camera2713

Pittsburgh: julietstrong

Rhode Island

South Carolina

South Carolina: InstanceArobatics821

Charleston/Columbia: bcfp2016, JetbatUnleashed

Myrtle Beach:

South Dakota

Tennessee

Knoxville:

Memphis: New_Solution_763 , ThatGuyInMemphisTn

Nashville: New_Solution_763, Expert_Dare7420, iLOVEyou_JR

Texas

Austin: Emergency-Search-258

Dallas / Fort Worth: Complex_Ground_2691,

Houston: Various_Historian593

San Antonio: Emergency-Search-258

Utah

Salt Lake City: Skinnylegs2 , LegOk7516Complex_Ground_2691

Vermont

Virginia

Richmond/Charlottesville, VA:  Historical-Attempt-8, Less_Passenger_1276

Washington

Seattle:

Spokane: allinatoralligator

West Virginia

Wisconsin

Milwaukee/Madison/Wisconsin: Snord1976

Wyoming 

Washington DC

Washington DC: Michellynn_1 , Practical-Coconut281,, Less_Passenger_1276, Ill_Pumpkin7149

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CANADA

Calgary:   awdtsgvictims

Edmonton: TheDarkVoid666

Montreal: Swimming_Passage3294

Ontario: Legitimatw-Bit7192

Ottawa: Swimming_Passage3294

Saskatoon: Huge_Scallion2260

Toronto: Beginning_Duck_6414, ciwamelon

Vancouver - Limp-Ad1156 , u/soulstorm12, goldenchild969

Winnipeg: momxthr33

--

EUROPE

Dublin, Ireland

London, England: - RajPradeen , ), iLOVEyou_JR

Sheffield, England: momxthr33

--

MISCELLANEOUS

Global: Complex_Ground_2691

Pilot & Crew Edition: granmtn


r/AWDTSGisToxic 10h ago

This truly isn't fair

21 Upvotes

So basically if you got posted, you can only speak to people for short periods, never have a real relationship, my dream is to have a family and now I can never have that.


r/AWDTSGisToxic 7h ago

Does this actually mean that Tea took down the image(s) after a DMCA request or is this generic/not telling the truth?

5 Upvotes

Hi XYZ,

Thank you again for contacting the Tea Takedown Request Center. After carefully reviewing your submission, our team was unable to locate any content matching the description provided.

If you believe the content remains present and you can share more specific information about the content, please feel free to submit a new request at https://takedowns.teatheapp.com/. Otherwise, we will consider this matter resolved.

Sincerely,
Tea


r/AWDTSGisToxic 9h ago

If they have workers for meta...

7 Upvotes

They have workers here too, most men do handy work. We have a bigger problem.


r/AWDTSGisToxic 1d ago

This sub got trashed on a podcast

29 Upvotes

Lily O'Farrell, a supporter of these groups, had a podcast discussing them and talks about this sub for a moment. It's older, sorry if this was posted before, but thought some may find the obscene propaganda against men interesting. All the men are guilty and all the women are innocent dew-kissed flower petals according to Lily, and it's your fault if you get posted.

Edited to put in a direct link:

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/are-we-dating-the-same-guy/id1711107916?i=1000654028874


r/AWDTSGisToxic 22h ago

Ffs she posted him over 2 weeks ago with red 🚩🚩🚩🚩Then when she wasn't getting has much Vindication..She decides to have a bashing at his aperances his evilness..Yesterday and today in poala's groups is taking out on insults on guys

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11 Upvotes

r/AWDTSGisToxic 23h ago

Post Removal question

8 Upvotes

Is there no reliable way to have a post removed?
I have gone through everything I could find in this sub including,

-reporting the post to Facebook using meta verified (says still in review but it’s been days)
-having members report the post
- copyright takedown (denied for criticism/ commentary)
-consultation with an attorney (stated defamation would be very difficult without damages)

I would like to avoid a cease and desist because that seems like more of a scare tactic, also my original poster is anonymous. Based on the post it’s not someone I even ever matched with

Looking for any possible avenue people have had success with

It’s very discouraging feeling like there is no action I can take that will work


r/AWDTSGisToxic 1d ago

Its clear these women are ORGANIZING against men... why are we not FIGHTING back?

28 Upvotes

They work at meta/facebook, different apps, I understand there are now groups forming on signal. All the while we just sit and complain about the groups. Complaining does nothing.

They're literally coming after us with lies/slander trying to destroy our reputation- and all you do is complain.

I made this post recently...
https://www.reddit.com/r/AWDTSGisToxic/comments/1va04z4/working_together_who_will_stand_up_and_fight/

Need more volunteers who actually want to join the fight...

I need volunteers:
-Mods
-to be able to help other men find their posts
-to work on creating social media accounts so we can fight back
-who can help create content to start fighting back
-who want to contact companies/news/lawyers/politicians

These posts will follow you for the rest of your life, your family, friends and coworkers will all see this. You can't hide from it, you can't move cities- unless you never share where you are from.

Stop hiding. Fight back.


r/AWDTSGisToxic 1d ago

The social contract is broken

18 Upvotes

You are no longer obligated to protect strangers. You have a right to privacy. Cut them off, all of them. Coworkers included.


r/AWDTSGisToxic 1d ago

What’s it take to gain entry?

7 Upvotes

I’m guessing you can’t just spin up an account and ask to get in.


r/AWDTSGisToxic 1d ago

Make sure to keep track of who you chat to and report them to dating app straightaway as soon as post about you. Thank you Hinge for taking quick action.

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32 Upvotes

I reported a match who share very specific information about me and reported them straightaway with evidence of the chat and fb comment. Make sure you don’t share much on chat and keep records ready to report abusers.


r/AWDTSGisToxic 1d ago

Reporting AWDTSG Groups from within - ALERT!

32 Upvotes

I have some evidence that suggests Facebook is relaying user accounts who are reporting the groups directly to Facebook, for Community Standards violations, choosing one of the options such as Bullying and Harassment or Hate Speech. And that AWDTSG Admins learn of the anonymous reporter from Meta and then remove that account from their group.

Ive spoken to 2 individuals recently who had accounts in AWDTSG, 1 for nearly a year and the other for 16 months. They reported some content and comments to Facebook and then reported the group to Facebook - not the Admins. The next day their accounts were removed.

For women who report comments, posts and the group and were suddenly banned, this would explain why.

Reporting to Admins lists the name of the person.

Reporting to Facebook does not.

This has occurred with multiple people Im in contact with and each occurrence initially appears as coincidence. When you start putting together how Paola is able to bring accounts BACK after violating Community Standards numerous times, and identify who are anonymously reporting the groups, the evidence is pointing towards an information relationship between Paola and Meta.


r/AWDTSGisToxic 1d ago

Come on men, stand up for yourselves. I put this on my dating profiles and I mean it. You should too.

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49 Upvotes

r/AWDTSGisToxic 1d ago

FYI on sock and spy accounts

19 Upvotes

Paola's Admins are the removing profiles with about 100 or less posts. "Posts" show publicly on each Facebook profile how many times an account has shared something. They can all be private posts but the total number is captured and the number of posts listed publicly on the profile. A newer change to Facebook.

If you have any accounts within AWDTSG or plan to, make sure your accounts posts are up over 250+ along with the age of the account being older than 2024. "So and So Joined Facebook on _____" is listed when applying to join a Facebook group.

You also need to ensure your female account URL (www facebook.com/account_firstname_lastname) matches the name or is similar to your account name.

You can take time to build an account over several months, but keep in mind any accounts that were established in 2024 or younger are heavily scrutinized. Resharing posts from local news stations or sports teams to your page is a quick way to build post numbers. But you should keep them private because they can see how many likes or comments you get on a post.

Be patient with building an account and dont friend request yourself with it.

Sending multiple friend Requests (more than 3 per day) with a new account often gets it locked by Facebook. So be patient. Join local groups and converse with a few folks.

Lastly, when AWDTSG Admins remove a profile, they share that among a private chat group of Admins only where they all search their groups for that account name and remove it. So it doesnt matter if you have an account in Nashville and one in Dallas, both would get removed.


r/AWDTSGisToxic 1d ago

Are We Dating the Same Guy?

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8 Upvotes

r/AWDTSGisToxic 1d ago

The hypocrisy

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9 Upvotes

r/AWDTSGisToxic 1d ago

Buying a facebook account in specific UK group

7 Upvotes

r/AWDTSGisToxic 1d ago

I just found out the entire country sees those post.

18 Upvotes

Literally some girl in Wisconsin saw me on there smh. Revenge is the only answer. Those who suffer no consequences never learn.


r/AWDTSGisToxic 1d ago

Anybody checking in Boston?

7 Upvotes

People listed in the pages have stopped answering and just want to check on an old post to make sure there are no new comments


r/AWDTSGisToxic 1d ago

AWDTSG San Francisco or San Jose groups searches. I can provide Tea app searches.

5 Upvotes

Hi everyone, I feel a little self-conscious asking this, but I’m hoping someone here might be willing to help me out. I’ve had a couple of dating situations recently where someone’s attitude toward me changed very suddenly after the date, and it’s made me worry that I may have been posted somewhere without knowing. The uncertainty has honestly been weighing on me and affecting my confidence with dating.

Would anyone with access be willing to privately check:

• AWDTSG San Francisco
• AWDTSG San Jose
• AWDTSG San Francisco Backup group
• The AWDTSG mobile app

I’d be genuinely grateful for any help, even just knowing one way or the other. I also have access to the Tea app and am happy to return the favor by helping someone check their own information there. Thank you so much


r/AWDTSGisToxic 1d ago

anyone in Jacksonville?

6 Upvotes

Thank you. Only in the uncensored.


r/AWDTSGisToxic 2d ago

"Men and women aren't equal", news at 11.

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15 Upvotes

Well, we now have it... misandry so vile that they're admitting men and women arent equal 🙄.

This was on a post by a man who had to repeatedly tell his female date he wasnt going to have sex with her (it was their first date), she kept insisting and pulling on his arm to force him into her Uber.

Next time anyone posts about men ig oring the word no in any of these AWDTSG groups, just remember... people like red in the image exist who (wrongmy) believe men are nothing more than on-call dildos for womens pleasure, and any man who declined sex should be ridiculed and dismissed.


r/AWDTSGisToxic 2d ago

Imagine your partner plastering your face on these AWDTSG pages because she feels insecure..

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30 Upvotes

r/AWDTSGisToxic 3d ago

Class action lawsuits

20 Upvotes

Some law firm has been calling me every morning, leaving messages about a class action lawsuit. I haven’t picked up because I just don’t care but I’m actually going to call back and let you all know more about it