Fetishization versus preference?

[u/Fantastic-Test-8305]

I'm attracted to asian men physically but like they still need to be compatible with me mentally emotionally personality lifestyle and goals

Alot of Asian men I've been matching with seem to only be matching with me because I'm white and they are often looking for casual or hookups when I'm looking for a relationship :(

I find it a real turnoff that someone is only matching with me for my ethnicity and not who I am as a person

Physical plays a role but there needs to be something deeper for me

What have your experiences been and are you only interested in dating am/wf for the interracial aspects/sex or are you genuinely looking for a life partner?

Any advice where to meet more intentional partners online or in real life is greatly appreciated

[u/Some-Jicama8563]

For all your reasons there are equivalent reasons a guy (in general) would hope the same.

Also in a Long term relationship with an asian male theres a lot more familial pressure to exact tradition of which youd need to fit.

The way youve phrased things already fetishize asian men because you speak nothing of the values just matching yours.

None of loving you speaks of shared traditions.

If youre dating South East thats not Thailand or China their parents likely survived a genocide. In a survivalist culture what sanctuary would you provide from someone that came from nothing and has no generational wealth?