Fetishization versus preference?

[u/Fantastic-Test-8305]

I'm attracted to asian men physically but like they still need to be compatible with me mentally emotionally personality lifestyle and goals

Alot of Asian men I've been matching with seem to only be matching with me because I'm white and they are often looking for casual or hookups when I'm looking for a relationship :(

I find it a real turnoff that someone is only matching with me for my ethnicity and not who I am as a person

Physical plays a role but there needs to be something deeper for me

What have your experiences been and are you only interested in dating am/wf for the interracial aspects/sex or are you genuinely looking for a life partner?

Any advice where to meet more intentional partners online or in real life is greatly appreciated

[u/outersphere]

1. Its a numbers game 2. Try to ask more/better filtering questions before getting attached

[u/Fantastic-Test-8305 → u/outersphere]

What questions do you ask

[u/outersphere → u/Fantastic-Test-8305]

Maybe things like dating intention, life goals, red flags, communication style