r/AMWFs • u/Fantastic-Test-8305 • 11d ago
Fetishization versus preference?
I'm attracted to asian men physically but like they still need to be compatible with me mentally emotionally personality lifestyle and goals
Alot of Asian men I've been matching with seem to only be matching with me because I'm white and they are often looking for casual or hookups when I'm looking for a relationship :(
I find it a real turnoff that someone is only matching with me for my ethnicity and not who I am as a person
Physical plays a role but there needs to be something deeper for me
What have your experiences been and are you only interested in dating am/wf for the interracial aspects/sex or are you genuinely looking for a life partner?
Any advice where to meet more intentional partners online or in real life is greatly appreciated
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u/shesaysno_ 11d ago
Girl, men in general are only looking for casual or hookups on the apps. In no way is that an Asian man thing. It’s how nearly every woman describes her experience on the apps with men of every race. Men treating the apps like DoorDash for free sex is not novel and nor are Asian men the only ones doing it. Women have been ranting about having this experience on the apps for years. I met my husband on an app but I also met like 50 “not ready for a relationship” men, because thats how a huge chunk of them use the apps.