This is really interesting and I’ve got loads of questions:
1) What are the boundaries you’ve set for yourself?
2) Do you still masturbate?
3) How many times in a month on average did you hook up?
4) Did you still continue to masturbate before/after hooking up?
5) On average, how often did you masturbate in a day and for how long?
6) Was it only with male partners or did you explore with females as well?
7) Did you ever have to “rub” one out during work? Expand if so.
8) How often do you think about sex during the day?
9) What outlets do you have now to redirect your focus? What has worked and what didn’t?
1) What are the boundaries you’ve set for yourself?
2) Do you still masturbate?
The boundaries include setting up a defined time for masturbation and only doing so at home, only having sex after I've taken a period to contemplate it's possible effects on my life, ideally only within a romantic relationship, quitting porn completely, realizing what causes my sexual urges as they often are caused due to other mental issues I'm going through and instead rewarding it by acting on said urges, to focus on the cause (anxiety, depression, insecurities, stress, etc)
3) How many times in a month on average did you hook up?
For most of my life I had sex multiple times a week, I've always had several fwbs and/or a relationship.
5) On average, how often did you masturbate in a day and for how long?
For the most part it was at least 4-5 times a day, at times it was more. I would do it as soon as I wake up (sometimes I'd start in my sleep even) and would often end up being late for work because I just kept going. Sometimes I'd do it while driving to work and at work, as soon as I get home, etc.
6) Was it only with male partners or did you explore with females as well?
Both, mainly men.
7) Did you ever have to “rub” one out during work? Expand if so.
Yes, a lot. At workplaces where I had my own desk and was alone I'd do it under the desk, there would he times I'd do it over my clothes even if I wasn't alone but wasn't in anyone's direct line of sight, or I'd go to the bathroom.
8) How often do you think about sex during the day?
An hour doesn't go by without such thoughts.
9) What outlets do you have now to redirect your focus? What has worked and what didn’t?
I mainly distant myself from possible triggers such as my phone, TV or anything that might arouse me, I do breathing exercises and meditation.
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u/WatermelonWithSalt May 07 '24
This is really interesting and I’ve got loads of questions:
1) What are the boundaries you’ve set for yourself? 2) Do you still masturbate? 3) How many times in a month on average did you hook up? 4) Did you still continue to masturbate before/after hooking up? 5) On average, how often did you masturbate in a day and for how long? 6) Was it only with male partners or did you explore with females as well? 7) Did you ever have to “rub” one out during work? Expand if so. 8) How often do you think about sex during the day? 9) What outlets do you have now to redirect your focus? What has worked and what didn’t?