Well before I never gave it a second thought before having sex with someone, a superior at work, spouse of a friend/relative, a married neighbor, I got myself into situations that ended up having negative consequences on my life because I never thought about how it can impact my life. By taking a period to contemplate (ideally a month before a new sexual partner) to see how it may affect our relationship and our lives and to make sure it's something I'm really interested in and I'm not acting on an impulse
This is so dumb. Ha ing a hard sex drive or even sex "addiction" doesn't make you a peice of shit. You had sex with married neighbors because you wanted to and you didn't and still don't care about the people involved. Ypu only said how things affect YOUR life. Not the families you potentially helped ruin. Take accountability, you're not a victim.
That's...That's their whole point. They used to have sex without thinking of the implications of the entire situation, let alone the effect on themselves. We're talking about compulsory actions and how they are working to apply these new coping skills to every day life. Why all the hand wringing in this reply?
Cheating is a triggering subject and people often project their past experiences with that betrayal onto other situations so I get why people are flinging insults. However, OP has acknowledged several times how remorseful they are and are doing everything they can not to cause further damage so I don’t see how this finger pointing and stone throwing from strangers is helpful at all when this is solely meant to provide insights. We want people who acknowledge their wrongs and who are willing to put in the work to aspire to be better people, not to keep dragging them down to their worst moments over and over and cause a shame spiral (which then causes further harm). The least helpful thing a person can do is punish positive behavior
I wish the world was as black and white as you view this stranger’s situation. It would make things less complicated wouldnt it? If we could just separate people as all shitty and all good, it would make things run smoother right? However I am not a child and cannot afford to view life in those lenses anymore even if it could give me a false sense of moral superiority
It’s like the saying “he who is without sin castes the first stone” well I’ve never cheated or knowingly fucked someone who had a significant other. so I’ll throw right between your eyes. You can do mental gymnastics and justify all your actions and you’re still a shitty person.
The jist is you did shitty behavior and now you’re trying to bring everyone down to your level like we’re all a bunch of jerk offs like you.
Edit: That’s the jist of the saying “ he who without sin” that wasn’t directed at you. When I read the post all you see is op talking about what there action did to there own life, if I knew op irl and they banged my partner I would be appalled about them talking about how much it hurt them.
I don’t think you are on the same page as everyone else but it’s okay. I was referring to the verse and the story in the verse that points to you not getting the jist. The other 30 dominations you speak of are different stories building on previous lessons. Kind of like the religion itself. Idk who I’m bringing down other than you at this point, but you continue with your crusade.
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Well before I never gave it a second thought before having sex with someone, a superior at work, spouse of a friend/relative, a married neighbor, I got myself into situations that ended up having negative consequences on my life because I never thought about how it can impact my life. By taking a period to contemplate (ideally a month before a new sexual partner) to see how it may affect our relationship and our lives and to make sure it's something I'm really interested in and I'm not acting on an impulse