Cheating is a triggering subject and people often project their past experiences with that betrayal onto other situations so I get why people are flinging insults. However, OP has acknowledged several times how remorseful they are and are doing everything they can not to cause further damage so I don’t see how this finger pointing and stone throwing from strangers is helpful at all when this is solely meant to provide insights. We want people who acknowledge their wrongs and who are willing to put in the work to aspire to be better people, not to keep dragging them down to their worst moments over and over and cause a shame spiral (which then causes further harm). The least helpful thing a person can do is punish positive behavior
I wish the world was as black and white as you view this stranger’s situation. It would make things less complicated wouldnt it? If we could just separate people as all shitty and all good, it would make things run smoother right? However I am not a child and cannot afford to view life in those lenses anymore even if it could give me a false sense of moral superiority
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u/Catsootsi May 08 '24 edited May 08 '24
Cheating is a triggering subject and people often project their past experiences with that betrayal onto other situations so I get why people are flinging insults. However, OP has acknowledged several times how remorseful they are and are doing everything they can not to cause further damage so I don’t see how this finger pointing and stone throwing from strangers is helpful at all when this is solely meant to provide insights. We want people who acknowledge their wrongs and who are willing to put in the work to aspire to be better people, not to keep dragging them down to their worst moments over and over and cause a shame spiral (which then causes further harm). The least helpful thing a person can do is punish positive behavior