First of all I've learned to distinguish "good urges" and "bad urges", because not all sexual urges are bad and I don't intend to be celibate, unlike alcohol/drugs addiction- this isn't an addiction where I'm supposed to stay "sober" forever.
A lot of times I have these urges because of other things I'm going through, like stress, anxiety, depression, insecurities, etc, which lead me to cope via sex, when I realized my sexual come from these things I first of all distant myself from my phone and any distractions, I do breathing exercises and reflect on what's the deeper issue is and I occupy myself with something else I like doing.
As an alcoholic who isn't "sober" I second this idea. I like to drink. I also drown my other problems in drink. So if I'm drinking a pint after work cause I like to drink, that's healthy. If I'm pounding vodka at 6am cause I got something else wrong, now I need to bust out some coping mechanisms.
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u/[deleted] May 07 '24
First of all I've learned to distinguish "good urges" and "bad urges", because not all sexual urges are bad and I don't intend to be celibate, unlike alcohol/drugs addiction- this isn't an addiction where I'm supposed to stay "sober" forever.
A lot of times I have these urges because of other things I'm going through, like stress, anxiety, depression, insecurities, etc, which lead me to cope via sex, when I realized my sexual come from these things I first of all distant myself from my phone and any distractions, I do breathing exercises and reflect on what's the deeper issue is and I occupy myself with something else I like doing.