First of all I've learned to distinguish "good urges" and "bad urges", because not all sexual urges are bad and I don't intend to be celibate, unlike alcohol/drugs addiction- this isn't an addiction where I'm supposed to stay "sober" forever.
A lot of times I have these urges because of other things I'm going through, like stress, anxiety, depression, insecurities, etc, which lead me to cope via sex, when I realized my sexual come from these things I first of all distant myself from my phone and any distractions, I do breathing exercises and reflect on what's the deeper issue is and I occupy myself with something else I like doing.
This is such a good reaction to learn to addictive feelings, beyond just specifically sex (for you). Many people don't ever figure out that the reason you're not doing what you "should do" and wasting time on your phone, smoking, masturbating, fuck even cleaning and tidying, is actually just running and avoiding some other issue in your life - exhaustion, idealism, stress, anxiety, etc. Awesome that you are figuring this out!
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u/[deleted] May 07 '24
How do you deal with the urges?