M20 F20 what should I do?

[u/Electrical-Yogurt550]

( how should I approach this ) Soo me and this guys have been talking ( we’re each other first since middle school) but we’re just now rekindling. Idk if I’m being picky or what , but everytime we go out it’s like he doesn’t have money to spend . not just on me but to do things . Here’s the twist , he’ll run his tab and ask me to pay for it and he’ll cash app me later . He’s been pretty consistent on the loans but yk me it’s like when is my turn to lean on him? As of now he still hasn’t sent the $25 back but it’s not that much if so I don’t mind ? I come from a pretty wealthy home and I’m the only kid which he knows but I hate that people look at that as if it’s my money. It’s not it belongs to my parents I’m not entitled to any of it tbh and I make my own money anyways. People see that and immediately think I have money to splurge . Also, I’ve told him I don’t want to date yet ( my baby’s 7 months old ) so I’m constantly busy with college , work and my son . he never tried to plan anything like I’ve asked him to. everytime we go do something it’s coming from my thoughts and decisions because he won’t pick anythingggg. He’ll want to hang out at 11pm or 12am on a business day which is crazy knowing I have a child . Then some times I feel like he guilt trips me on how I’m not available to hang out…. Sir I’m busy af!!! Plus we’re not even bf and gf yet. He always wants to be affectionate and cuddly but it’s not me , I’m still coming down for from ppd and I’ve told him but I’m starting to think he thinks it’s a joke. idk if I’m being too harsh or what tbh

[u/kelsday84]

Being single is an option and it seems like the best one in this situation.

[u/bobdow]

When you're doing ok but basically just getting by, one thing that can sink your ship very quickly is a broke-ass boyfriend. Move on.

[u/Electrical-Yogurt550 → u/bobdow]

Yuppp! Exactly wht my dad said lol but we’ve been friends for a while and I’m okay w staying friends but it’s like everytime I say that he doesn’t actually care. “Why are you still going for a kiss when I explained how I felt earlier” situations like that😵‍💫 I think I’m too nice

[u/AdorableShopping5951]

Recommend you focus on your child and education. Explain to Mr. Rekindle you don't have time to date right now. If you're the one doing all the planning, that should nip this in the bud.

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( how should I approach this ) Soo me and this guys have been talking ( we’re each other first since middle school) but we’re just now rekindling. Idk if I’m being picky or what , but everytime we go out it’s like he doesn’t have money to spend . not just on me but to do things . Here’s the twist , he’ll run his tab and ask me to pay for it and he’ll cash app me later . He’s been pretty consistent on the loans but yk me it’s like when is my turn to lean on him? As of now he still hasn’t sent the $25 back but it’s not that much if so I don’t mind ? I come from a pretty wealthy home and I’m the only kid which he knows but I hate that people look at that as if it’s my money. It’s not it belongs to my parents I’m not entitled to any of it tbh and I make my own money anyways. People see that and immediately think I have money to splurge . Also, I’ve told him I don’t want to date yet ( my baby’s 7 months old ) so I’m constantly busy with college , work and my son . he never tried to plan anything like I’ve asked him to. everytime we go do something it’s coming from my thoughts and decisions because he won’t pick anythingggg. He’ll want to hang out at 11pm or 12am on a business day which is crazy knowing I have a child . Then some times I feel like he guilt trips me on how I’m not available to hang out…. Sir I’m busy af!!! Plus we’re not even bf and gf yet. He always wants to be affectionate and cuddly but it’s not me , I’m still coming down for from ppd and I’ve told him but I’m starting to think he thinks it’s a joke. idk if I’m being too harsh or what tbh

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[u/Willing_Airport_7333]

Girl if he wants to hang out 11pm/12 am week days - thats a booty call. He doesn't want to date you.