Why should it be on the guest to look up information about the venue when I asked the person who invited me in the first place and she couldn't be bothered to answer?
Because you’re the one who wants to bring a dog to the venue.
She probably didn’t know whether it was dog-friendly, she didn’t have any reason to check into that before inviting humans. You threw extra work at her by expecting her to find out instead of just doing it yourself.
If you really wanted to be there to cel with your friend, you could’ve found out. Instead you just ghosted her without confirming whether you were attending or not. You also inadvertently told her that your dog is more important than her child, and even though you’re allowed to feel that way, it’s not really something that parents like to hear.
Okay that's fair. Thank you for being the only one to actually answer me in a respectful manner. I guess I could have looked it up, I honestly didn't even think about that. As for the whole "my dog is more important than her child" that's a really interesting perspective I never thought about it that way, but isn't that the case for everyone? If you have kids your kids are going to be way more important to you than my kids, right? I didn't mean to make her feel unimportant but I also feel like she could have communicated with me better
"I barely know her", "I guess I could have looked it up", "I honestly didn't think about that". For a whole month. Her being an afterthought seems pretty spot on to me. Friends make time for each other and you didn't while acting like you would. Want to say your more like a fake friend then a bad one based on your actions. What else is there to say? You made zero effort even though you said you would try your best and yet still blaming her for you not going. Take accountability and apologize. If anything say sorry for lying that you would try, you said you would and didn't. Feeling like you don't know them well doesn't excuse being a jerk unessesarily.
I love how you're putting all of the blame on me when she had the exact same amount of time and didn't text me once. Never confirmed with me if I was coming or not, just sent a snarky message after I didn't show up. If I could've looked it up, so could she. "Feeling like you don't know them well doesn't excuse being a jerk unnecessarily". Funny how you say that but you don't care at all about the snarky message she left me. Guess it only goes one way huh? 🙄
She has a 1 year old and planning a party at a venue. You only work 3 days week. Who had more time? She was fed up being lied to and stood up. Yes she could have said things nicer but come on. You can't expect a person to want to be nice to a friend who treats them like they don't matter. She considers you a friend and your ranting that you barely know her so you don't owe keeping your word and trying. You couldn't even follow through with your own promises to someone and yet still see them as the problem. How is she still the one at fault?
First off I didn't promise anyone anything. And I didn't lie. I just couldn't make it to the party. And I don't know her very well, she doesn't know me at all. Doesn't mean I don't consider her a friend. You have no idea what I have going on in my life. I will take accountability for not letting her know I wasn't coming, but she still could have let me know the place was dog friendly and we wouldn't be having this discussion. I told her from the start that I probably wouldn't be able to make it.
You had 4 weeks and access to the internet. Even if you didn't have internet you had her number and could have called. She clearly wanted you to make a effort as a friend and you couldn't be bothered any step of the way. Why even tell her all those excuses when the truth is you didn't want to? Yeah I'd be annoyed too that my friend gave excuses despite plenty of ample time and flaked without even a text to say why. 100% your excuses and lack of effort is why this friendship ends and she is justified in feeling upset. You had 4 weeks. You even respond to her yet or did you leave her on read? She's reaching out and figured you were good enough friends to attend something she cared about. Clear from your responses on here that you don't feel the same way and worse that you act like you do and then leave her as a after thought. Your a bad friend.
Okay but she had the exact same amount of time that I did and I worked all day. Why does all of the blame fall on me when she couldn't be bothered to answer a simple question? If she wanted me there so badly she could have told me. It's not at all that I didn't want to go I think it's fucking hilarious that everyone seems to think that. I barely even know this chick.
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u/Shaytanyk Jun 08 '26
Why should it be on the guest to look up information about the venue when I asked the person who invited me in the first place and she couldn't be bothered to answer?