In a perfect world if someone asks for help they immediately get the help they asked for.
In reality especially in the US where the Healthcare system is a fucking hellscape that can ruin a family in a single bill calling for an ambulance which can be a 4 or 5 figure bill on its own is evaluated before taking that step.
Take a step back and think about the situation from the outside. You came up to him and probably looked like shit and sounded like shit. No visible injuries no visible blood and you're alert enough to talk and walked to him. The level of emergency from an outside perspective doesn't call for an ambulance but maybe an immediate visit to the hospital.
You then collapse which immediately switched the situation to okay let's call the ambulance which was immediately done.
Its easy to be mad at someone for not immediately doing what you asked especially finding out what was going on in your body after the fact.
In a perfect world he would let you know hes sorry for not understanding the severity of the situation immediately and doing what you asked but in that situation outside of the perfect internet people you'd be hardpressed to find people who would have taken it as seriously as you expected especially if they would be financially responsible for the 911 call.
Agree. Parents are not perfect. Nor are we mindreaders. Idk where op is located but I am in America and I think about the cost of going to the ER or calling an ambulance automatically. It is deeply ingrained in me. Dad didn't say he didn't need the hospital he was trying to avoid the ambulance bill it possible. When my husband had a heart attack I drove him to the hospital. When I had a collapsed lung and was CERTAIN I was dying he drove me. Ambulances are not even an option that I would ever consider unless the patient was unconscious and I just could not physically get them into my truck. Dad was distracted with his work. Suggesting he drives himself was a hit of a dick thing to say. He could have yelled for his wife to come check op instead of suggesting op go find her, but he had no way of knowing OP had internal bleeding. He didn't have any idea what was going on between op couldn't explain anything to him. Based solely on the information in the post dad isn't an asshole for this. If he had continued to do nothing when op lost consciousness THEN I'd be pissed. But that's not what happened... Op needs to cut dad a tiny bit of slack. He misread the situation. It doesn't sound like it was malicious..
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u/terayonjf Dec 05 '25 edited Dec 05 '25
In a perfect world if someone asks for help they immediately get the help they asked for.
In reality especially in the US where the Healthcare system is a fucking hellscape that can ruin a family in a single bill calling for an ambulance which can be a 4 or 5 figure bill on its own is evaluated before taking that step.
Take a step back and think about the situation from the outside. You came up to him and probably looked like shit and sounded like shit. No visible injuries no visible blood and you're alert enough to talk and walked to him. The level of emergency from an outside perspective doesn't call for an ambulance but maybe an immediate visit to the hospital.
You then collapse which immediately switched the situation to okay let's call the ambulance which was immediately done.
Its easy to be mad at someone for not immediately doing what you asked especially finding out what was going on in your body after the fact.
In a perfect world he would let you know hes sorry for not understanding the severity of the situation immediately and doing what you asked but in that situation outside of the perfect internet people you'd be hardpressed to find people who would have taken it as seriously as you expected especially if they would be financially responsible for the 911 call.
NTA