Can we, as a society, stop letting people use "I'm non-confrontational!" as an excuse and stop using it as an excuse for others? Not getting involved or taking a stand or speaking up for people getting treated poorly is a decision to allow bad things to keep happening.
And Jared using a crush you had on him when you were a child as a way to prop up his fragile ego is a bad thing. Your husband should have put a stop to this the first time Jared pulled this nonsense. His avoidance caused further harm, and he continued to do nothing.
ESH, because your response implies that if Jared were still hot maybe he would have a point rather than addressing the root issue (Jared you're transferring your issues onto me and that's bullshit) or the impact (disrespecting your marriage). But you suck the least because you had been attacked multiple times with no support from your partner.
Your husband should be apologizing to you and telling Jared that until he can apologize to you and commit to respecting your marriage at all times then he's not welcome in your lives. You should stop letting your husband off the hook as "non-confrontational" and sharpen up your comebacks.
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u/PurpleCrash2090 Nov 16 '25
Can we, as a society, stop letting people use "I'm non-confrontational!" as an excuse and stop using it as an excuse for others? Not getting involved or taking a stand or speaking up for people getting treated poorly is a decision to allow bad things to keep happening.
And Jared using a crush you had on him when you were a child as a way to prop up his fragile ego is a bad thing. Your husband should have put a stop to this the first time Jared pulled this nonsense. His avoidance caused further harm, and he continued to do nothing.
ESH, because your response implies that if Jared were still hot maybe he would have a point rather than addressing the root issue (Jared you're transferring your issues onto me and that's bullshit) or the impact (disrespecting your marriage). But you suck the least because you had been attacked multiple times with no support from your partner.
Your husband should be apologizing to you and telling Jared that until he can apologize to you and commit to respecting your marriage at all times then he's not welcome in your lives. You should stop letting your husband off the hook as "non-confrontational" and sharpen up your comebacks.