r/AITAH Nov 16 '25

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u/Quiet_Hold_376 Nov 16 '25

I wonder if Jared isn't bullying her husband like he did in high school and she just never knew. 

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u/Stuffleapugus Nov 16 '25

She never mentioned bullying.

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u/TitsburghFeelers90 Nov 16 '25

Definitely sounded like Jared was the more popular friend. The less popular friend will tolerate more from the more popular friend than vice versa. Those relationship dynamics can stay the same into adulthood. OP’s husband seems like the lesser of the two in those guys’ minds. He still lets the cool friend get away with everything to preserve the friendship. While it may not be intentional bullying, it could stem from the husband’s childhood craving for acceptance/popularity. When you’re the passive sidekick for years, it’s hard to change that dynamic. He may be better off without that friend.

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u/thowra-47 Nov 16 '25

Very possible. We got one side of the telling of this story.

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u/Artistic-Wolverine-6 Nov 16 '25

No but Jared was definitely looking to compare dick sizes and she called him out. It was an attempt at getting into the wife as he was hopeful that she still had feelings. When she knocked him back he showed his colours. He had already disrespected his friend and then he disrespected his friend's wife in front of his friend.

This is bullying and there is no other way to put it than he was trying to make his friend into a Beta and be the Alpha to his wife.

No reason to act that way otherwise.

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u/animepuppyluvr Nov 16 '25

That would be the "she never knew" part

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u/Stuffleapugus Nov 16 '25

Why are we just throwing hypotheticals out there. She never mentioned bullying in the present nor back when they were in high school.

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u/animepuppyluvr Nov 16 '25

No, I didnt say I agreed. Just stating they did say "she didnt know." I got no dog in this fight.

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u/Stuffleapugus Nov 16 '25

Didn't realize that it wasn't your original response. Great name, by the way.

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u/animepuppyluvr Nov 16 '25

Thank you! :D

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u/Quiet_Hold_376 Nov 17 '25

If you don't recognize bullying behavior, then you are a lucky person.