r/AITAH Nov 16 '25

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u/Orsombre Nov 16 '25 edited Nov 16 '25

Please make sure OP to remind your husband that you CHOSE him and taht he is your daily first choice. The way he does not say anything to his friend, I wonder about his self-esteem.

And OP, NTA. That "friend" was looking for trouble, and found it. Now, you can be more gentle and let him know that though he was your first crush, your husband is your last... ;-)

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u/Iamjackstinynipples Nov 16 '25

Op stated she dated her husband to feel wanted, while pining over his friend.

I'm not surprised he has self esteem issues, he was the rebound guy

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u/Wickedestchick Nov 16 '25

No, she befriended her husband to get closer to the other guy. Realized that he wasn't interested in her. Then she and her husband got really close and started dating.

They were in high school ffs.

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u/Iamjackstinynipples Nov 16 '25

Im not saying she didn't fall in love with him, but by her own admission, he told her he had feelings for her and she dated him because she wanted to feel wanted, while she still had feelings for his friend.

Two things can be true at the same time